One thing about trust is that once it's broken, it's hard to earn back. No matter how much you try to make things right, the one you betrayed will always remember that moment of disloyalty.
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To be trusted, you have to be honest and transparent in all you do. I once dated a girl, and my instinct told me she was cheating. I tried not to act on just my feelings, so I gave her a chance to clear my doubts - but she only gave me more reasons to believe my instinct was right.
One of her biggest mistakes happened when she was sick. She told me it was malaria, so I asked what medication she was taking. She sent me a screenshot of some drugs, but when I checked their names online, they turned out to be for infections. I guess she never thought I would look them up.
The night before, I asked about her medication. I called her three times, but she didn't answer. On the fourth call, it showed that she was on another call, so she must have seen my calls, and I stopped calling. The next morning, she called back, saying she was sick, which was why she could not answer. But when I asked how she could be on another call if she was sick and unable to pick mine, she said it was her mum.
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Oh well, her mum is more important than me, the sickness only stopped her from picking up my call, not her mum... All the red flags she was showing made me erase the thought of long term relationship with her, ofcourse I won't want to place someone whose mum is more important than me in my home or else it would be her mum controlling our home, after all trust were broken, I left the relationship without a goodbye, her apologies could not bring me back cos I already gave her ample time to change before I made my final decision.
If you want to be trusted, you have to earn it by being plain and transparent, and a good example of someone like this is my wife.
We both know each other's passwords and have access to each other's phones, but that doesn't mean we go about checking each other's phones because the trust is already there. There was a time someone was giving her bad advice as to why she allowed me to know her phone password. Cheaters are easy to identify and would always want to ruin others' lives the way they ruin their own.
So I believe it is easier to build trust if we do not give them a reason to doubt us. Once you start acting shady, every bit of trust disappears*.
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