Greetings friend, excellent article, in short we must have our own criteria, to express what we think even if it is not in accordance with what other people want to hear.
It has happened that when you don't know how to say "no" and you please everyone and the day comes when it's time to say you can't help, they come to label you as selfish. At this point in my life I have also learned that I should not worry about everybody liking me, that they should accept me with my defects and virtues.
See you later my friend, have a happy Sunday, blessings! 👋