Very insightful post. Especially the segment about childhood and parents.
I had an abusive father and a mother who invalidated everyone's feelings. It was a one two punch that left me growing up feeling insecure and inconsequential. A life full of anxiety and self doubt. I became someone who needed a partners live to validate myself. I can only imagine how tiering thst neediness must have been for them.
However it was also something that on reflection and through the experience of feeling loved for once that created a mirror to understand why i was the way i was. And through that i loved others deeply, cherishing them and giving them all the love i wished i had recieved as a child.
Now things are a little easier. I understand myself more and feel more complete.
Interestingly many of my emotional breakthroughs came from sharing my time helping raise a little boy. One day I'm going to write a book about these reflections about my time with the boy, how a child taught a grown man his most important lesson and helped heal a broken soul.
Hey Dave! First I want to thank you for making time to read me and give such a well thought reply. Unfortunately a lot of the trauma and bad attachment style we get from our childhood. We can't change our parents or get back in time to fix it. I also dealt with a lot of issues in my childhood and I can confirm that it just reflected in my relationships. But I have realized that once we change the way we interact with our parents, good or bad, the dynamics in the other relationships changed as well. The issue is that we are attracted to the wrong partners because they trigger the same pain our parents caused us, therefore we want to heal, over and over again. Once we make peace with it and change our pattern, we will no longer feel attracted by the same type of people because we have changed. We have healed.
Your idea to write a book about this is brilliant! I encourage you to start even if you'll write a couple of sentences per day. I think that a lot of people would love to read your story!
Have a great week!
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