It is hard to describe the pride, hurt and memories that all flow once a loved one departs.
Traditional funerals bestowed upon those who protected a great honour, my brother was a man of the sea with traditional church service, followed a few months later with his daughter and myself burying him and his daughter/sister at sea. Sea farewell was more emotional than the large church service.
My thoughts are with you as I know yours are still very much with your brother Denise.