Thank you. I feel like it's kind of expected for you to continue functioning as it nothing has happened, though. Especially when you're not the direct relation, so you're expected to hold everything together. It's one of those "stop the world I want to get off" periods of time.
Fingers crossed on the tree. I still need to finish the rest of the pruning as well, ready for next season.
Psh. That's our modern capitalist/Protestant work ethic society, and not at ALL what it would have been back in the day, and isn't realistic in terms of how humans actually feel and function. You're close to who you're close to and what degree of relation or not makes no difference as to how their absence makes you feel. People need grieving time for friends even though there's no direct relation. Don't feel obligated to do more than necessary. Take your time and feel your feelings. The work will still be there when you get back on. <3
Also down to the attitude of the family, if you know what I mean. A certain someone has to be the most important in the situation and I'm just trying to help hubby through dealing with the paperwork side and that someone.
Interestingly I was having a conversation with someone recently about how we deal with death in the western world by shutting it away. It was along another vein, but his descriptions of how the Filipinos do it certainly opens it up for everyone to be a part of the grieving process.
Oh, for sure. Every family has their own way too.
When my grandmother passed away - one of the few family members who I think actually loved me, there aren't many - we were at her funeral service and I was crying and my aunt turned around and said "I thought I would be the only one crying."
I genuinely was like, what??!
Seven children and many grandchildren and you thought you were going to be the only one crying. Hooooooooookay.
I didn't say anything about it, but my mind is still blown to this day.
Not sure I'll ever really understand people... or families for that matter.