I have experienced this quite a bit in my life & am finally at a point in my life where I am starting to understand I cannot help everyone. They have to WANT the help. You can only give someone advice or help for a while until you start noticing the vicious cycle forming.
It is hard for us to refuse to help someone at times, but you are right....it's a matter of respect on both sides. I gladly give my time to help someone but if they ask and keep ignoring what they asked me for, then after a couple of times, it gets old. You see the writing on the wall.
Unfortunately, we are in a society now where people get offended to get offended so that type of conditioning can play a factor as well at times. I will continue to help others as long as they help themselves. As a reformed people pleaser, I no longer allow my time to be wasted or manipulated by someone who has no desire to help themselves.
Great content, Zoltan, as always & btw, you might have inspired me to do another video soon ;) Have an awesome weekend :) 💗
I have actually, experienced the contrary of you are saying... After a couple of attempts to explain to someone that our "combo" will not work, as there is no communication, I get into that "sarcasm mode" that @rarej mentioned in his comment... But with that even, people don't get offended... lol... So, it's probably me and I have some major failure in my system...
and yes... We have to protect ourselves and our time and use it wisely...
Thanks for the comment and can't wait to see the video inspired by this one :)
How interesting - we experienced different situations with almost the same results. Every time I try the "sarcasm mode", people get butt hurt & offended. It's probably because they don't expect it from me! LOL 🤣 😂 (It doesn't stop me though lol...)
I will let you know once I make the video....you just need to stop inspiring me, darn it! 😂
@tanjakolader There is a reformed people pleaser here, if you need any guidance on your own reforming journey. 🙃
Ironic you used this phrase. I did a video today and you will see .... ;) And definitely always glad to help! :) @tanjakolader does great work as yourself. She is great! Blessings to you :) 💚
Awww thank you...
Yeah am in the process of not keeping on helping people who don't at least try.
My time and energy are valuable and priceless, so I'm very cautious in who I spent them on.
100% Truth! Good for you! 🙌 💚