How To Build Confidence And Standards As A Lady

in Ladies of Hivelast year (edited)

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Be That Classy boss Lady You Always Desire To Be

Hello beautiful people of hive, how are you all doing today? it is still Christmas and I'm sending you my lovely wishes from afar!!!

It's been a long time I actually saw a post like this on hive, and I felt it will be good I actually do something about this topic, because a lot of beautiful ladies out there keep looking for solutions on how to build a good standard and a good confidence Clasy lady, and they end up going to YouTube to watch videos which of course they get good informations from, and some end up googling and of course see a lot of answers, but at the same time I was thinking there are some of us here on hive that don't actually put their time to YouTube but rather 3speak, and some prefer hive to Google so it will actually be good if there is someone feeding hivers on beautiful topics like this, and I am volunteering to do so for as long as I can. your comments and contributions will help motivate me to source more information to help the ladies of hive. Building confidence and standard Clasy lady is one big thing that every woman should acquire and these things actually take effort and time, and we are here to see what it takes to build the confidence, and to build that standard you want people to see in you, so are we ready?

It is important to note that in the journey of building this confidence and standard woman you want everybody to see in the society, know that you will get judged by people, some of your friends that don't want your growth will tell you they don't like the change, they will tell you this is not who you are but trust me at the end of the day they will be the ones to take your steps to build themselves as well. you know a lot of people discourage you because they feel you can't do it since they can't do it themselves, so they feel if you try to get it done you will be perfect and don't want you to be better than them, so they start discouraging you, and I want you to know this that when such people come across your way, you should be able to resist such talk so you can focus on building yourself.

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Remember nothing good comes that easily, everything good comes with dedication and consistency; so let's get started already.

5 Steps On Building Your Reputation/Standard

Here are few questions you should find answers to that will help you with this journey and taking them seriously will help you a lot, so let's look at them already.

Do you know the real you?

Are you more obsessed with feminine or masculine with the way you look?

Are you more of the social or unsocial type?

Are you the type that goes to places they don't even invite you to, just because you are desperate to be known or recognised?

Are you the Independent type or you ask everyone on your contacts for support?

Now let's address the above questions

Do you know the real you?

In the journey of building your reputation or your standard in a society, what you first need to do is to find out who you are; that way you will know how best to build that person to the better version you want to see. I know this may not probably be the first time you are hearing something like this but trust me the moment you find out who you are and start building yourself towards the better version you want to see in that person that you are, the more easier it becomes.

Are you more obsessed with feminine or masculine with the way you look?

In the process of discovering if you are more obsessed with dressing like a feminine that you are or you love masculine dresses, you should always know that whatever you feel more comfortable with when you look at the mirror is definitely what you should go for. I have seen a lot of people that masculine dresses perfectly fit, but not accepting who they are and trying to fit in dressing like a feminine, trying to fit into what other girls do does not actually change anything at all for them. if your body is the type that fits in very well with the feminine dresses, then I want you to fill your wardrobe with different responsible classy feminine wears, and if your body is the type that go well with masculine dresses then I want you to fill your wardrobe with fantastic, dope masculine dresses that when you pass everybody will turn on look.

Are you more of the social or unsocial type?

All introverts and extroverts should gather here now; in the journey of building yourself to a good confident standard lady, you will need to apply both introvert and extrovert to your dictionary. there are some situations that doesn't require your opinion, and in such cases I advice you keep quiet. there are some cases that highly requires your opinion, and in cases like that, I want you to be polite, not to rush words and speak with wisdom. I want you to know that in the journey of building yourself to become that responsible classy lady you want to see, you will need to also respect yourself first.

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Are you the type that goes to places they don't even invite you to, just because you are desperate to be known or recognised?

If you find yourself in a program, and you find out that some of your friends are there as well, don't just wave and say "Heyyyyy!!! I know you, how are you?" you can't be that lougy' just sit down like a responsible lady, Should in case you come across with them with eyeballs, I want you to just wave while smiling or smile to signal them that you actually see them too. If you see a celebrity or someone with higher standards that you've actually been seeing in the TVs, a popular person, don't just rush and ask them if you can take a picture with them, that is childishness. in fact if such people are with your friends in the Same table, or your friends know them well, just wait till the end of the program, and then you can go and say hi to your friend not them, and when probably your friend introduce them to you, you can just kindly shake them and say "Hi, how are you? it's nice to meet you.) and make sure you're smiling. and then after that kindly turn back and walk away. and if provincially the person asks for your contact, let them know that your friend will forward your contact to them, don't just rush and give them your contact; it doesn't make you look expensive.

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Are you the Independent type or you ask everyone on your contact for support?

Now I want you to know that in the law of building a classy responsible lady, you will have to first give yourself that dignity you want people to see, so let's say you have a visitor and the visitor comes to your house and find out how clean your house and your environment is, and then how you place your foot wears and everything, they will not walk-in with their footwear seeing how well the house is arranged and it will automatically be programmed in their head on how to treat your house whenever they are coming, so you will have to first put out the work before others will follow. you have to get something doing that provides you money, you have to have a potential that when someone look at you, they will want to invest on you because they know that you can build it up stronger. No matter how small the nature of your job is, you need to have something doing, you can't be jobless, you cannot not have something doing; that is not what classy ladies does, that's not what potential ladies does. potential ladies have things going on, they have business that provides for them, even if it's the smallest of it all.

This topic is too broad and I don't know how I can put everything here on this one post, so like I said earlier I am going to be giving informations on how you can build yourself, so I hope with this little words, I change your mind towards things differently?

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Hi!💜 Having more confidence in myself is one of my goals for next year, it's something I really need, so it was very interesting to read your post.

Oh really? I'm so glad you fine my work Interesting, I am willing to give more information to help ladies here on hive.

Thanks so much for stopping by @eldiariodelys and merry Christmas to you 🤍

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This post is really I formative...

The part that got me the most is the "don't be lougy' part" crazy!!!!

Merry Christmas to you @blacktarri

Hey!!!

Ladies can't be lougy all the time you know, it is always cool to keep it cool.

Thank you @liftmeup ,for your kind comment. Merry Christmas to you too🤶🌲🥂

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