We have to be careful wherever we go, I would like this to be a happy post or about some activities that I usually do but that will not be the case, but more than telling an experience so that other women always be careful.
I will start by going into context, for 2 months I have been working with a company that is in charge of managing events and activations for brands, I work in two different areas, the first is as an assistant/support and the other area is being a promoter for the brands, wearing their clothes and showing their products at events... Having said that, I can continue.
Labor Day in Latin America is celebrated on May 1 and something is usually done with the workers... On this occasion they decided to celebrate with a party that happened yesterday so that everyone can celebrate and get the stress out of their bodies. As it is an adult party there were alcoholic drinks and there are always people who do not measure their limits, unfortunate...
Well, we are divided into work groups, this meeting was specifically about a particular group, the support group... The whole meeting was relatively good and in fact, I spent most of it talking to another girl, she barely has 18 years old, so I felt like I was her older sister because I have developed an affection, I was attentive to her all night, we always went together to go to the bathroom. Around 4:00 am a group that belongs to "security" arrived. From the beginning I stopped feeling comfortable because the atmosphere felt heavy.
One of their men tried to dance with me, I agreed to a song and I realized that he was acting strange and like he wanted to touch places on my body, I intercepted his hands before doing anything as a precaution and said that I didn't want to dance anymore, at all. At that moment I sat talking with my little friend until it was 5:00 am and I said that I wanted to leave, so we all arranged how we were going to leave, there was a person who works as a taxi driver within the group and another who had his own car. We agreed that I would go with another person first and when he returned from that trip they could all go together. My little friend had come with the group that had own car so she would leave in the second round along with the rest, I said goodbye and everything was normal. When I get home I texted that I have arrived safely I fall asleep after a few minutes, the worst was in the morning when when I checked my phone I saw her message asking if I was okay and it seemed strange to me because I told her that I was okay, in that I answer, she calls me to vent and tell me that the man I danced a song with also tried to dance with her and the same thing happened but to get out of the situation she went to the ladies' bathroom to feel safe, there she felt safe and she decided to pee and when she was already with all her clothes down and her private part exposed, the man came in slamming the bathroom door and opened the next door where she was, alone in the bathroom and with her parts exposed, she only told the man "what the fuck is wrong with you", he came out and acted in front of everyone like nothing happened and she tried to talk to other men to confront him and nothing happened... How is this possible? What do they have to wait for a tragedy to happen to react?
Today, after she told me all this, I let everyone know what happened, in addition to a dismissal from the job. Some men claimed that he was always quiet and calm, unfortunately not everything is as it seems... All this happened while I was getting home, the car was returning to the place to pick up those who were missing, I was always with her and I accompanied her to the bathroom and never left her alone... Women, be careful, never be alone, especially at parties or meetings where everything is heated with alcohol, try to bring something that can serve as self-defense. Even I myself suffered something similar in the past with a man trying to rape me. I ask you, be careful and never be alone.
Hay que tener cuidado a dónde quiera que vayamos, me gustaría que este fuese un post alegre o de algunas actividades que suelo hacer pero no será el caso, sino más que contar una experiencia para que otras mujeres tengan cuidado siempre.
Empezaré entrando en contexto, desde hace 2 meses es que vengo trabajando con una empresa que se encarga de gestionar eventos y activaciones para marcas, yo trabajo en dos áreas diferentes, la primera es como ayudante y la otra área es ser promotora para las marcas, vistiendo sus prendas y enseñando sus productos en los eventos... Dicho esto puedo continuar.
El día del trabajador en Latinoamérica se celebra el 1 de mayo y se suele hacer algo con los trabajadores... En esta ocasión decidieron celebrando con una fiesta que ocurrió ayer para que todos puedan festejar y sacarse el estrés del cuerpo. Como es una fiesta de adulto habían bebidas alcohólicas y siempre hay personas que no miden sus límites, lamentable...
Bueno, nosotros estamos divididos por grupos de trabajos, está reunión era específicamente de un grupo en particular, los de apoyo... Toda la reunión estuvo relativamente bien y de hecho, yo me la pasé más que todo hablando con otra chica, apenas tiene 18 años ella, así que me sentí como si fuera su hermana mayor porque he desarrollado un cariño, toda la noche estuve atenta a ella, para ir al baño siempre íbamos juntas. Alrededor de las 4:00 am llegaron un grupo que pertenece a la "seguridad" yo desde un principio dejé de sentirme cómoda porque el ambiente se notaba pesado.
Un hombre de ellos trató de bailar conmigo accedí a una canción y me di cuenta que estaba actuando raro y como que quería tocar lugares de mi cuerpo, intercepté sus manos antes de cualquier cosa por precaución y dije que ya no quería bailar más, en todo ese momento me quedó sentada hablando con mi pequeña amiga hasta que son las 5:00 am y digo que ya deseo irme, entonces entre todos arreglamos cómo nos íbamos a ir, había una persona que trabaja como taxista dentro del grupo y otro que tenía su carro propio. Quedamos en que yo me iría junto con otra persona primero y al regresar de ese viaje ya se podrían ir todos juntos. Mi pequeña amiga había venido con el grupo que tenía su carro propio así que ella se iría en la segunda vuelta junto con el resto, me despedí y todo normal. Al llegar a casa aviso que llegué y me duermo al cabo de unos minutos, lo peor fue en la mañana cuando al revisar mi celular veo su mensaje preguntando si yo estaba bien y me pareció extrañó por qué yo avisé que estaba bien, en eso que respondo me llama para desahogarse y decirme que el hombre con el que bailé una canción, también trató de bailar con ella y sucedió lo mismo pero ella para salir de la situación se fue al baño de damas para sentirse segura, ahí se sintió a salvo y decidió hacer pis y cuando ya estaba con toda su ropa abajo y su parte íntima expuesta, el hombre entró azotando la puerta del baño y abrió la siguiente puerta donde se encontraba ella, sola en el baño y con sus partes expuestas, solo le dijo al hombre "qué carajos te pasa", él se salió y actuó delante de todos como si nada pasara y ella trató de hablar con otros hombres para que lo enfrentaran y nada sucedió... ¿Cómo es posible esto? ¿Qué tienen que esperar qué suceda una tragedia para reaccionar?
Hoy, después de que ella me contara todo esto, se hizo llegar a todos lo sucedido, además de un despido de su trabajo. Algunos hombres afirmaron que él siempre era callado y tranquilo, lamentablemente no todo es como se aparenta... Todo eso sucedió mientras yo llegaba a mi casa, el carro estaba devuelta al lugar para recoger a los que faltaban, yo siempre estuve con ella y la acompañaba al baño y nunca la dejaba sola... Mujeres, tengan cuidado, nunca estén solas y menos en fiestas o reuniones donde todo se sube de tono con el alcohol, traten de llevar algo que pueda servir de defensa personal. Incluso yo misma en el pasado sufrí algo parecido con un hombre intentando violarme. Se lo pido, tengan cuidado y nunca estén solas.
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STOPI love this, it's always good for women to prioritise their safety especially in environment where alcohol is involved. Some use that as an avenue to get to women and that's why it's good for you to go out with friends in case you get drunk or any other happenings. Great one my friend.
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That is a shame that she had to go through that. There is safety in numbers! Take care!
That's what I said! Never alone
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That is so unfortunate and I am glad that nothing happened to her. We have to be extra careful when entering new territory especially when we are alone as women.
Exactly, I don't go to those things alone and when I'm outside I'm looking everywhere, I can't be calm
This is so sad and a someone who recently escaped assault from a sexual predator, I feel immensely sad that nothing happens to men like these. I'm happy your friend is okay and I hope that women, in general can someday feel safe in this society.🌺
Amen sis
I'm thankful that nothing happened to her.
We should be careful of events we attend.
No one carries the mark of an abuser on their foreheads.
Thanks for sharing this
Always extra careful
Assaults from men is one of the reasons I turn down invitations to parties and clubs. I'm sorry your friend had to go through such. It might have been fleeting but is very terrifying. I'm glad he didn't hurt her. Thanks for sharing.
Even myself I don't go to those things, but I was thinking that I promise be more sociable and blabla buut nooooo. Now extra careful
You really have to be extra careful. These assaulters are always on the prowl looking for who to devour.
Dreadful, your instincts were correct. We have to have a way to alert other ladies that predators are present on the premises, with alcohol served it will be a matter of time someone will be assaulted. Never be alone or all the ladies leave the premises together citing personal safety!
It is a good idea all ladies leave together, specially in events like that one
Such an incident should not go unnoticed and be taken up with the company to ensure safety of the patrons and staff. IF the company won't deal with it then you and all the ladies concern can take it up with the Press and on social media websites. Nothing like the threat of bad publicity to persuade the company to act or watch their reputation take a big public hit.
Follow up.
I made a big scandal and made it public knowledge with all the employees, the man was fired from the company and another man also said that he wanted to apologize but I said that it was better that we not see his face here again
Awesome! You got some results. I would be tempted to see that these men arrested and at least accused for assault on their records. Unless your experience was but last in a career of assaults, you'd know what to do from here and prevent another woman from being assaulted.
Lamentable situación que deja mal parados algunos hombres que no saben valorar y resptar a las damas.
Gracias a Dios el asunto no trascendió y el aberrado fue despedido de la empresa.
Saludos.
Sí, se habló con todo el mundo para que lo despidieran, eso es inaceptable y todavía ir hasta el baño de damas y hacer esa aberración