Hello friends of this community; Well you get better with practice, that's a good truth; I remember when I started working in the hotel chain, in the reservation center, with calls, with sales and I had never done that, ever, I saw people and I thought "how can it be so easy for them, if for me it is so complicated" and I started with that internal voice "I can't", "I'm not good for sales", "this is not for me", "I was not born for this" and I had to change my internal narrative and say "how come those people could and you weren't going to can".
Self-confidence is not feeling less or more than anyone else, it is simply knowing that you are capable of achieving it through practice, study, training, all skills can be developed, because “you become good with practice”, so I decided to accept everything that came to me and do my best knowing that it would not be perfect, that I would make mistakes, but it was the only way to build self-confidence.
Likewise, I want to start making publications, "but I don't know where to start", "I'm not good at it", "how do I do it" just start, just make your first publication, even if it doesn't turn out perfect, but by doing so you can look at how to improve next time, but you have to start, I see so many people who miss so many opportunities because they simply don't feel confident, if you are an insecure person, distrustful of some things, please continue until the end, we will see how to get out of this place.
Another disadvantage of professional life is the difficulty in negotiating salaries, negotiating projects, sometimes a person accepts any job, any salary because they do not believe themselves to be good enough, they do not have enough confidence to ask for a promotion, to show their achieved goals, in terms of relationships, for example, the person with low self-confidence normally has many problems, they have communication problems.
I remember a boss telling me that I don't like it when people come to do an interview and it seems like they are apologizing for existing, these people are so insecure that they apologize for everything, which doesn't go well for them at work or in relationships, so it's not something that they obviously can't get ahead of, but they do need to learn to relate and express themselves better.
So you need to develop these skills and that I consider very useful today in this generation in which we live, there is a phrase that describes all this, “Self-confidence also develops to the extent that we manage to relate better to others”, what do you think and here comes the worst of having low self-confidence in relationships, emotional dependency, social isolation, anxiety, depression, that is why it is very important to talk about these issues, but even more important to work on them.
In relation to building self-confidence, the construction of self-confidence in practice is achieved through perseverance, the truth is that, if we want to improve any skill in any area, we need to practice, no matter how cliché it may sound, we need to get out of our comfort zone, we must expose ourselves, we must face our fears to be able to practice what scares us today.
Constant practice makes these tasks stop seeming as difficult as when I started my job at the reservation center, in the end time passed and what seemed difficult to me before, I was already doing it automatically, because in the end little by little each small step, each small victory reduces our anxiety, gives us more confidence, the great myth is that you first need to feel safe and confident and then act.
Many people say, including me, I told myself, “well when I feel better, when I feel more confident, then I will do it”, but the reality is that that will never happen if you don't start acting, period, by practicing you will realize that you can do it, you will receive positive comments you will receive results and these results themselves are what will encourage you and motivate you to continue.
Imagine self-confidence as a small being that you need to feed, if you feed it and do the things that scare you and make you insecure, that small being of self-confidence will grow, on the contrary, if you stay stagnant, if you stay hidden out of fear, out of insecurity, that small being is going to become weaker and smaller.
Practice is the key and every day we have the opportunity to face our fears and to improve.
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This was such a motivating read! Your journey from self-doubt to confidence really highlights how practice and perseverance can change everything. It’s so true that waiting until we “feel ready” often means never starting at all. Your words will definitely inspire a lot of people to push past their fears and take that first step. Keep sharing your insights!
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