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Eventually, I accepted that I couldn't control how they judged my effort

That's a freeing realization. You can control how you show up, but you can't control whether someone chooses to appreciate it

So I kept doing what I could, but I stopped trying to earn their approval.

And sometimes that's the healthiest next step: give what you genuinely can, communicate what you need, and stop destroying yourself trying to prove that you're enough