Many weeks ago I had a birthday; There was a kiss and some words; happy birthday my love, or words to that effect, and this year he wrote me a poem which I loved. It was full of passion and emotion with references to nature, something we both love, and my eyes and it was so lovely and a perfect start to my day. There were no gifts, just a late lunch and coffee; it was perfectly us.
My partner and I are simple people who gain value through simple experiences. Extravagant gestures or gifts for birthdays are not required or desired. The nice things we do for each other are often spontaneous and I love that because I never know when they may happen, today, tomorrow...today and tomorrow? Yes, that's happened too. It's nice.
And on spontaneous niceness...I've had my eye on a handbag for a long time but just couldn't justify the cost of it. I've visited the store a few times trying my hardest to justify the cost and convince myself I needed it but I never quite managed to fool myself; the simple fact is I don't need it, I just want it.
I've not said anything to my guy, should I do so he'd tell me to get it or simply get it himself and I'd find it under my pillow one night when I got into bed or some such thing; no, I stayed silent because 'want' isn't enough of a reason to buy something like a handbag.
I live with a very clever man though and not much slips by his notice. It's a good thing, he notices the smallest things about me and comments, something most people just don't do - notice things I mean. You have on a new shade of lipstick today, it's lovely, he would announce. I don't know how he does it because most lipsticks I wear are pretty much all the same shade. He's observant though and somehow he realised I wanted that bag and...it materialised in my house a few days ago.
I don't want to make this post all about the bag, the brand name or anything, no it's not the one in the image either; This post is about doing nice things for those we love without needing a reason. It doesn't have to be a handbag, it could be a word of thanks, doing the dishes rather than leaving them, a love note left stuck to the milk carton in the fridge...for me it's small things like that, random niceness, that means far more than grand gestures on days like birthday's, Valentines Day and so forth.
I like my bag and am so pleased to have it, but I love who gave it to me and the reason why he did so; I also love that it came to me randomly and not for any other reason than that he wanted me to have it; it means so much that he took the time to find out I wanted it, that exact bag, and that he knew just when and how to give it to me, it melted my heart.
Becca 💗
Becca, Felicidades, Happy Birthday to you 😍
I think it's really nice when both partners in a relationship actively work to maintain it. Everyday life without these details can be draining. But people who actively work on their lives and their relationships are assured of success.
I love simple people.
We seem able to turn the simplest of moments into significant ones. Every moment must be enjoyed, and that's what we work towards.
Becca 🌷
Oh dear Becca!
I love that you pointed this out in this post.
How I wish people knew that every little good gesture done with a pure and good heart goes a long way.
I do not give much value to grand gestures done to me on birthdays or other grand occasions like I value gestures done to me by thinking and taking note of every little thing about me.
This post sure speaks a lot. Thanks for sharing dear Becca.
Small things done with good intent, kindness and generosity and showing love are small things, but big at the same time.
Thanks for your comment.
Becca 🌷
Happy Birthday Becca! Happy Birthday to you! I don't know when it was exactly, but I wish you the best in the world today and always.
What a nice touch from your partner, those little big things are what make a relationship beautiful.
You know, when you talk about lipstick, it happens to me with the colour of nail varnish, it tells me ... what a beautiful colour you wore today, and maybe it's similar to the previous one, but he notices the slight difference. Those things are the most important and, as you say, the ones that make you melt.
A giant hug Becca!❤️
Note: I love the bag! I love it!!!😍
He's a good man, the best really.
Becca 🌷
You are very lucky, enjoy!
Hugs Becca ❤️
That is really nice. If he notices a new shade of lipstick, even though they are pretty much all the same shade, then he definitely looks at you lips a lot haha. But in all seriousness, I think he really cares about you and it shows.
Congrats on getting the bag that you wanted, and belated happy birthday.
He looks at more than my lips a lot, and I don't mind at all.
Becca 🌷
Happy Birthday !
It sounds like it was a good one.
I always think birthdays or other giving occasions are the time when it is ok to get something you simply want. I mean, isn't that the best excuse for it? I think so.
The fact no fuss was made of it made it good, it could have been any other day and that's how we like it; our own birthdays mean very little to us.
Thanks for your comment.
Becca 🌷
I guess most of the birthday hubbub is based somewhat on tradition. Here, we like to fuss over each other at birthday time. I like helping make someone's day special and I don't mind being fussed over a little bit on occasion.
That being said, however people choose to celebrate, loud or quietly intimate should be however it means the most to them. :)