There's indeed a great lesson and message you just passed @tarazkp
Our actions matters, the way we react to certain circumstances is very important also. These aspect alone makes our absent to be felt positively and if twisted wrongly the negativity of such personality begins to spread. If as a leader who lead but having it at the back of your mind that you're also serving the masses as a leader that alone has spread a positive vibe of the capable things we are even yet to do. I van understand how your daughter feels, my elder sister was in same situation, been the eldest yet the shortest made her feel less important, we mistook her height for her capabilities, how naive we were as kids.
Leadership is harder these days with younger people, because they don't have much respect or commitment to anything that doesn't make them feel good. In the workplace, not all tasks are feel-good tasks, and there is a lot of room for criticism for people without the experience to do a great job. But rather than take the learning, they just take offence and become bitter. And then, they expect that they get catered to because they are so special.