Reading from here down, you just said everything I have been trying to say to my child.
...parents who think that removing all obstacles and discomforts from their children's lives is going to lead to a better life for the child. I don't believe it does.
Besides removing obstacles, allowing hours and hours of game time on the computer gives them a "reset button" mentality when it comes to facing hard realities. My kids have lived with the obstacles that I put in their lives. But then again, I only had them weekends.
As you know, one of them chose to walk out and go back to Mom's house when confronted. You don't like my words? You will read them one day, even if I am no longer here.
This is a good observation. Not only is there the training of impatience and instant gratification for useless reward, it also gives the "next time" mentality as if there is always more opportunities. For some things, once the window closes, it doesn't open again.
This is how I use Hive a lot also. It is a download of me, ideas and questions that my daughter can read when she is ready.
Exactly. I am writing to my child because he cannot hear it now, not from me anyway. I will elaborate a bit here and there for passers by, but my goal is to tell him as if I were speaking to him in person. I do not want him to think I put it out there for others to play referee between us. Glad you understand.