Hi Galen In the case of loved ones who are very dear and no longer around like my father, I don't do anything on their birthdays. I have the date of his passing engraved. I don't usually do anything special on that date either, I just accept the grief and keep in mind a thought from Freud: "Although we know that after such a loss the acute state of grief gradually diminishes, we also realize that we will remain inconsolable and that we will never find a way to adequately fill the void, for even if it were completely filled, it would have become something else. This is how it must be. It is the only way to perpetuate the loves we do not want to give up."
A very big greeting.
I know many who don't mark the day a loved one died in any way and I guess that's their choice, we're all different and deal with these things in various ways for that reason. I'm not one to create a shrine to people I've lost, nor do I have to go to gravesites or memorial walls to feel closer to them, although I certainly remember them well and fondly, their lives I mean, not their deaths.
I hope you're well and have had a good couple days.
Hi Galen, again, I'm fine, and at the same time trying to assimilate a new development about my mother. At 86 years of age her cardiologist has advised her to have open heart surgery. The laptop problem has been left for what it really is, an anecdote. A hug
That's terrible news and a tough decision lies ahead. I imagine heart surgery to be a major stress on one of such advanced age; I wish you and your family strength and all the best in the decision-process and ongoing also.
Thank you very much Galen, besides having a very interesting channel, you are a very good person. A big hug
You're too kind, but thank you.