Relationships today are just quite simple from what I've learned. And I also I've learned the hard way so they are complicated.
The complicated part of this relationship is when I started making excuses for people instead of opening myself to the reality that has been shown to me. I believed patience and must be willing to wait at all costs and to receive the wrong of others hoping that they will change.
Our thoughts understanding means we have to tolerate things that made us so uncomfortable. When someone showed that inconsistency, dishonesty or disrespect, we didn't call it what it truly is. We are in that moment where people are stressed, we name assumed they are stressed, they are not in the right mood, they are not in the right place. Everyone has flaws, no one is perfect and all sorts of things.
But this pattern never lies, this cannot be painted so beautiful that we ignore the truth behind it or the fact that can't sound sincere, but the most important thing here is the action which have repeated itself.
When someone keep canceling that time they show, they keep showing you how much you value your time. Sometimes when they disappear when things get hard or when it was time to make the tough decision, they'll show you how they handle responsibility but you keep ignoring it when they hurt you and they feel less remorse about it they are showing that the capacity of the level the way they care.
The truth is people are also honest about the way they behave and their actions. I was not just honest with myself to know the truth in this relationship that I was in into. I wanted to accept what I was saying because I said accepting it made me feel that I was making a bad decision which can be painful.
What really changed everything was me at some certain point started to realize the clarity and the hope that was built in. When I see people this clarity doesn't make me feel cold or any it makes me feel grounded it has saved a lot of time and energy and that gives me the self-respect that I need. It has allowed me to choose that relationship that makes me feel safe, makes me feel seen, makes me feel happy, make me feel good.
When someone shows me who they truly are I'll just pause and check where and check for repeated pattern over time and that will give me all the answer. Relationships are not hard because we find out that people are confusing but it's because we fix to understand that this is who they truly are and they can never change for anyone and we must accept this fact and move on with life.
