I felt pretty vulnerable typing it out. It is something I've always thought but never really spoken out loud, or written. Now, I'm fucked, its here forever and everyone will always know that I don't like mingling.
I'd rather have deep, meaningful one on one conversations, or have it be more casual, like sitting around a table at a pub, or on a couch in someone's backyard, or on beanbags near a roaring fire.
Good conversation and that level of human connection is good, but it is only good, because of the time we spend by ourselves.
Forgive me for intruding too far, but are you and your lady-friend good at being alone together? I find that such an intimate thing to do with another human. You're both in the same space, each doing your own thing. You're alone, but you're alone with someone else.
I figured it might have been a little confronting to say it but it's good that you can, acknowledge it and all; I don't see it as a bad thing to be honest.
I'm with you on the small groups and more intimate/small group settings, much easier and I think more valuable meaningful.
The lady and I do what you say a lot, we're comfortable in silence and doing our own thing but being in the same room, the garden or whatever. I think that shows a good level of connection and comfort. We don't always have to be doing something either, or talking. It's solitude and togetherness at the same time.
Yeah, good, glad we're not the only strange people who do that. So many other couples I see must be doing something together, constantly. That just wouldn't work very well for me.
It is fantastic when you've got that level of comfort with someone. Kind of like the same way cats treat their owners, I guess.