Really? Wow, she's super talented! <3
I won't lie, I find the dating world intimidating and somewhat daunting in terms of finding a life partner.
Me too. I remember someone telling me well obviously these online dating apps aren't great for meeting a consistent partner, because they're not designed with that in mind. As an app designer, my interest is to keep you engaged into the app, not deleting it after a week or two, right?
So they engineer the apps and subtly influence the culture and conversation around them to something more cold and superficial, which keeps you coming back. Obviously, app design alone can't change how people are, and what they're looking for and all that. But pair an endless amount of options with an ever more superficial hedonistic society, it's an ideal combination (for the apps, not so much for the people looking for long-term stability).
(for the very reason that Taraz highlighted in the comment).
went back to see what he'd said: D Yeah, completely. It definitely creates this impression that that is what's gonna be expected of you, when you go to bed with someone, which can be frightening, especially since everyone's recovering from (or not so much) abuse or trauma of some kind. The possibility of being hurt and exposed to brutality becomes too much, and people shut in.
So, to me the timing of my "addiction" was perfect.
we learn what we need to, when we need to, right? I'm glad it worked out like that :) And I'm glad it didn't influence you negatively forever. There's people for whom that happens. I think it's when you're immersed in that long enough, it comes to affect how you view the world. They mistake what's on screen for how all reality out there must be and end up paralyzed, too scared to even go out for coffee with someone. That's a shame.
Sorry again for rambling. It's just a subject that's very interesting to me, how we interact and why and all. :)
I've come to realise and believe so ✊