If a heavy meal takes time to digest, imagine a complex emotion or a situation. We want to have everything digested too quickly, and things take time and involve discomfort, and many times we want to hurry them up.
We have not finished processing something many times and we want to act as if we have already understood and solved it. This leads us to live with that heaviness similar to that of the one who has not digested the food with the risk of suffering a digestive congestion, that is, the eruption of the unpleasant emotional volcano.
The best thing is to give us the time... I also know how hard it is to take two days doing absolutely nothing, do you think you can do it? Or should we wait until we get sick?
Come, and I'll tell you something
When one understands what is happening to him, life accommodates itself differently, and takes us away from ourselves.
Looking straight at what takes us out of our center to turn it into possible decisions, is simple, human and without poses.
When the head screams, nothing is enjoyed... This is very real.
Let's do this: let's stop, look at what activates us and practice how to turn down the volume on those anxious, pessimistic and toxic thoughts to regain focus, calm, and peace.
Since the beginning of this month, I'm having a few days where life is testing my calm and patience in the face of problems... one after another without rest.
I trust God to help me get through all of this, and take the time to process, to understand what caused what I'm feeling before I want to move on to the next thing.
We always hear the phrase “you have to love yourself”. A phrase that is not enough to repeat as a mantra, it must be acted upon.
Truly loving yourself is a much deeper process. It is learning to take care of ourselves, to protect ourselves, to make decisions that bring us closer to well-being and not to the precipice.
Of course, I also do not want a self-esteem that only looks at the positive, because no one is exempt from acting inhumanely, in this world we are all imperfect, we can hurt others, even and especially those we love the most.
Mothers to children, siblings, partner, friends and stop counting. When there is a bond of trust, we project aspects of ourselves that are unacceptable for our self-concept and how relationships get complicated and how many unhealthy things come out. I believe from experience that knowing the darkness of the other, is when we can deal with our own shadows.
I also think that the scariest thing is to accept oneself as we are.
True self-esteem appears when we can look at ourselves with everything we are: your lights and your shadows, your successes and your mistakes, and still treat each other with compassion. It is when we understand where our wounds come from and are able to embrace them without letting them define our value.
That is self-love: not perfection, but the ability to sustain yourself even in imperfection.
Janitze 🌹
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with Canva
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Translation with |DeepL