There are lovers who get sick with fear, and fear, when disguised as jealousy, ends up destroying what he wants to take care of the most.
Fundamentally, to love is not to watch, it is to trust. 😬 Because if we have to doubt every now and then, we are no longer in a relationship: we are in an emotional war.
When the relationship is filled with repeated arguments, long silences, jealousy, tiredness and that feeling of “we don't listen to each other anymore”, the worst thing is to let it continue on automatic.
Stopping on time is healthy, and from my own experience it helps a lot: look at each other honestly, understand what is hurting each one and agree on boundaries that take care of both.
Can you love and be unfaithful at the same time? And I have heard many answers among my closest circle, for example a co-worker replied that Being unfaithful is a break that every couple should have... According to your criteria and experience "the routine gets tired", hahahah, a criterion that I do not share due to the lack of commitment in your relationship.
Other comments like it is common to hear them "Eating the usual causes boredom". Anyway, eyes that do not see heart that does not feel and happy the 4... Will it be?. The question seems simple, but the answer is not. Because yes, we can love and still hurt. And although love does not always turn off when one of the partners fails, feeling love in no way justifies breaking agreements and harming the other.
To love is to assume the fault, repair the mistake, learn and really commit to what we are willing to fulfill. Is he going?I listened to a great friend, and she's right: swallowing your anger, canceling yourself out and continuing to endure “to avoid” only kills the relationship of a couple.
Personally, I can accept that they don't want me, because I have understood that not everyone will always like me, but I am very sure of one thing and that is that we must always learn to like ourselves.
I have learned to love myself even when I don't understand myself, to stay true to me.even when I am rejected or have a failure and to keep me company when everything seems empty.
And in the middle of that meeting I discover and I know that I am the only person I want to be with, I think this is me.this is not selfishness, it is self-respect, it is understanding that saying "enough” is a right, it is a power that is exercised.
You have to somehow learn to trust your partner again, because where there is no peace, tranquility, anxiety is generated by excessive insecurity, distrust and believing that you are not worthy of love. This translates into lies and concealments that break the agreements with our partner.
Take care of what you build, but above all, take care of yourself.
Janitze 🌹
Separator made with Canva by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
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