You start the New Year knowing where to go, of course you always feel the pressure to start with everything.
It seems that the world forces us to run a marathon for which we have not even warmed up. By the way, we fill ourselves with giant goals, but inside we feel just as lost as last December.
Real change is not born out of desperation, but out of order. I don't know, it's about doing more things to feel productive, it's about understanding ourselves better to stop improvising our well-being. Because a goal without a solid emotional foundation is just a new year's promise that gets broken in February because we get tired fast and empty of direction.
It is better to make decisions with your head to stop improvising life. It is always good that we change the requirement for clarity to make it different. We must change the rush of immediacy for the real and in "I have to" for the "I want to be well".
Has it happened to you that everything starts to go well and, suddenly, you damage it yourself? You walk away, you get complicated, you procrastinate, you say you're not ready and you wonder why qué?...me apologies for the expression why the fuck am I doing this?
This is called self-sabotage. And it doesn't come from failure, it comes from the fear of success, because when you don't think you deserve success, more than getting excited, it scares you, because it demands to hold yourself, show yourself, commit to your value, and if you are not reconciled with yourself, that terrifies you.
Self-sabotage is something like our mind saying "this is too much for you", "this is not safe", "you can't handle this". And many times it comes from behind, from having grown up feeling that you didn't matter, that you didn't stand out in anything just so that you wouldn't bother. These are just signs...Sometimes you have to pay attention to the signs... Actions, opinions, reactions, even silence, is a sign.
We definitely need to stop fighting against us and start understanding each other. Ask yourself "What am I telling myself when I'm about to achieve it?"And then answer you, especially with the truth.
Look at yourself with love, may the end of the year not be the opportunity to criticize you with cruelty.The more you love yourself...
You will learn to stay away from toxic situations and you will be your biggest priority. You will choose, before anything, your peace of mind. You will stop waiting for people and will not accept half-hearted loves.
Living attached to your principles and values is not fashionable, but it gives you coherence. Being faithful, loyal, honest, is the best choice you can make in your life, whether others see it or not, but always your dignity and self-respect is more valuable than what others think or want.
Janitze.🌷
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Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited by me with Canva
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