People are complicated.
Personalities are complex.
Relationships are complicated.
Love is complicated.
Hate is optional, and the simplest way out.
When couples refuse to accept that relationships come with highs and lows, the easiest of all is to develop hatred for each other. When one is consumed with hate, one cannot deal with any of the complications above.
I do think that marriages can last if people accept the complications above and embrace the challenges, differences, and changes that come with their loved ones.
I can't imagine a marriage to be "healthy" if either party, say two high school sweethearts, remained the same for 40 years and did not evolve. Personal growth is essential, and I'd hope that both parties grow and develop different strengths...
I was gonna mention the changes in cells over seven years, but I saw that in your comment. Yes, I do believe there's some reasoning in that fact?... and with that, do you think that people should have the option to have 7-year marriage licenses?
You are right - most don't seem willing to catch it early and cut the hate out of the relationship and that hatred festers.
I know a couple who have a discussion every few years to see if they are still wanting to continue on for another few. Seems to work for them.
😅 Wow, they sound like pragmatic people 😂