Yes You are saying right. When I was reading this content I was feeling like I am thinking itself.
We can't change our behavior and it remains unchanged.
I think we forget about our expectations here. Whenever we expect anything else from others, if others do not fulfilled, it hurts alot and so that our behavior about these ups and downs changes and also affects our personality alot.
Our future is more important than our present day happenings and its experiments.
I think we should live our life in its limitations so You can live it more.
Perhaps, we should expect more of ourselves. We seem to expect others to act as we want, but excuse our own poor behaviors.