instead of labelling him as a victim, his parents took the approach that in order to have a full life, he would have to learn to adapt to the world, rather than expect the world to adapt to him
It's a superpower.
Also there has to be adaptation both ways. Even among "neurotypical" people brains and learning styles vary by quite a lot. Expecting everyone to conform to One True Way because SOCIETY is just as stupid as an individual expecting the entire universe to pander to their ever changing fragility.
Oh for sure. I think this is where compassion comes into play, where a person is able top adjust their own behaviour when they recognise the struggles of another person. But as with any dance, it is a two way street.