We don't do "this" more often because "life gets in the way" which makes you tired and wanting to do nothing at all blah blah blah but basically boils down to it's infinitely easier to just not regardless of how much you might enjoy the interaction. When you have a todo list which will never, ever end to matter what, even the most enjoyable event added to it becomes another thing to do.
The difference is, I recognise that I am doing this (most of the time) and still struggle to pullback on the lever.
Not all blah blah blah. When there's adhd involved/heightening things there is sometimes the overwhelming compulsion to just keep yapping even when your brain is screaming at you to stfu.
Anything random, anything off our expectation, becomes a negative experience.
And this is also why we don't meet as often.
Hm never occurred to me. Academically makes sense I think but also outside my current experience. The only "discomfort" with organising catchups is the perceived "inconvenience" of having to prep for it (if hosting) or actually getting in the car and going. Yep definitely infinitely easier and more comfortable to just not x_x
So when are you next catching up with your friend? :)
Crazy, isn't it? Our wellbeing takes a backseat on the to-do list, in favour of a thousand things that aren't very important.
Like a chihuahua.
I have things in the pipeline already. Trying to organise a "pumpkin carving" evening! :D
That's what I've been saying! But then one has to define pretty much every aspect of "wellbeing" as some of the things that I don't consider important are actually somewhat important for general wellbeing (things like cleaning).
I want to say exactly like a chihuahua but I've only seen chihuahuas and never lived with one. The impression I got from them was super cute, bug eyed and trembly and the yappiness is purely anecdotal XD
Pumpkin carving evening sounds like fun :D