How we are raised definitely defines our character.
I remember one anecdote Rafael Nadal former coach (his uncle) explained once when giving a lecture. The player finished a game when he was at his younger age and lost. At the end of the game his uncle asked him, "what happened?" and he answered (with an excuse tone), "it was very windy and it was hard to manage the ball while serving", then his uncle told him "and it was only windy for you or also for your opponent?"
Through his career, most of Nadal's opponents mentioned his mental strength was his biggest weapon.
We all need to be chased to improve, specially at young ages. Every one of us in a different way, depending on our personality. That's what good coach know how to do, chase every kid the way he needs to respond positively and try to improve and get better.
Smallsteps needs to be chased in a completely different way other kids need, and you seem to do it quite well in many circumstances as she keeps willing to push her own boundaries to get better every day.
Play the conditions. I think it is a lesson we are forgetting as a society, where we are waiting for or expecting "favourable winds" for us to do well in life.
This worries me a bit, because she is going to outgrow me very fast.
Actually, that's the best gift she can give you as a daughter 🙂