The common phrases that is most popular when it comes to friends is "a friend in need is a friend indeed". The phrase means that a true friend is someone who helps us when we are in trouble or going through a difficult time. A real friend will offer support and help when you are struggling, not just when things are fun and happy. A true friend will provide emotional support, help us through problems, and motivate us during hard times. Their loyalty is proven by their actions when you need them most. But in my case, I had a bitter experience with friendship. Not to mention, whom I conaider my friends turned away when I needed them most. It does not take long to me to realize me that in the mean and selfish world true friends are very rare.
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We had a good bunch of childhood friends. We studied together, played together and even had lot fun during their sister wedding events. It was like hosting own family function. But with time, everything changed. Life is pretty fast paced and people changing their outlook towards each other is quite common. I think I lag behind in understanding this theory. I remain the same with my friends pretty loyal and having faith and trust on them but they change their outlook. Everything falls apart, when I left alone at times of emergency. Noone was around. Those friends who were like family just turned away their faces in matter of few years. May be the the modern society or focus on career have made them to change. But since then I learned the hard lesson in bitter way. Life is always a learning curve and that instances taught me the important lesson and showed me true faces of individuals. This made me to be alert and choosy to trust anyone especially when someone approach me as a friend.
Alone and absolutely loving this peace
While everyone looking to have a friend in life, i learned to live without a friends. I do have some fellow colleague and individual around in the city to spend time but lack the spirit of a true friends. Life without a friend can be challenging but also empowering, leading to greater independence and self-discovery. The absence of friends in life developed a stronger sense of self-sufficiency and the ability to handle challenges on my own. Facing life's challenges without a fallback friend can build resilience and problem-solving skills. Some people may argue that the absence of friend may lead to loneliness and isolation. But i learned to cope with it. In case of feeling lonely and isolated, it is crucial to seek social contact through family or other connections to support our emotional well-being.
Honestly saying , I do have few friends out there in cities, but now I find more solace among our cousin. I have now good brotherly affection alongwith good understanding. They are now more trustworthy than being a friend. We do enjoy goingbout together, had few drinks together, and even had some fund of our own way. Life without friends may be challenging, but when we have some brotherly love around than who needed a friends?
Some people thrive in solitude, finding they can focus on their goals, discover their true interests, and build a resilient sense of self-reliance. And this helps me get better with the passage of time.
In good faith - Peace!!
In embracing solitude, you’ve not only discovered your own strength, you’ve also learned to cherish the relationships that truly matter. Peace and clarity, always!🤗
Family is like that built in friend you never knew you want or needed and you don't get to choose them!
To be honest, your experience happens a lot. We give our best without expecting anything in return, and overnight, it's the others who change. However, it's not ideal to live without friends. In one way or another, we always need someone, not to feel approved, but to share. It's part of our lives and nourishes our emotions. Perhaps we should be more selective or more modest. We are happier when we enjoy what we experience with other people, and even adverse circumstances are more bearable. There is a key point in your reflection: solitude or time alone gives you the opportunity to find yourself, to analyze yourself, to look back in order to correct, improve, and move forward. It also allows us to be honest and analyze whether we have somehow caused others to treat us this way. But whether we are in company or alone, being authentic and positive will always make us happy. Thank you for sharing your reflection.
Bhai, I believe there are things in life where you need friends, and there are things in life that you need to do alone. But I totally agree with your point of view. Help is nice, but never be dependent on another person. Because that person, too, may have reasons that are beyond his control and a life that we dont understand.
I am that friend. It's not that I didn't want to help my friend who asked for monetary assistance; I was in bad shape then, and I couldn't.
After that, we drifted apart. That's all. 💟☮️
This is so true. I have lost quite a number of friends to lifestyle changes, travels, class divide etc. And then, my one and only best friend died some years ago. I can't really say I feel lonely, but I feel alone sometimes.
Is that ok, too