I would probably inquire as to why this critical conversation took a month to happen.
"Busy" was the reply. An odd reply in my opinion, if they felt so strongly.
Did they let it go but are bringing it up now because that is the only common subject or bond we share?
I think that it might have been this, or a little Dutch courage. I found it interesting because they essentially have plenty of opportunity to bring it up, and they also have had plenty of opportunity to see my interactions with others, which are uniformly equal, unless they are friends. This is the minefield - people want to be treated equally, yet demonstrate that they can't be trusted when they are.
an encouragement to not let this type of thing stew and live rent free in a brain
This is the way I went and said that they should bring these things up quickly, as it allows for us both to grow.
I try not to let these things get to me, but I also try not to change much myself, since I know that I treat people well and I know I never intend to upset anyone. I want life to be enjoyable and this constant witch hunt so that people never have to improve their own emotional control, makes life worse.
Busy.
This is the lamest most ignorant excuse out there as far as I am concerned. If there was a month worth of things that took precedence over this in importance, then it was either not important at all or they are not telling the truth. Either way, thank you for bringing it up, you get the diet version of me from here on in.
Their witch hunts and drama shows are their own. I refuse to play stupid games for those stupid prizes and happily retire from each of them as I find myself swept into one. Easier said than done but fun to practice.