It is funny but the blockchain connecting us, and being a layer that divides us at the same time, I often forget about you having a stroke. You are just a leader and peer whose posts I search out for great conversation based on some common goals and completely different perspectives. I usually learn something like how a stroke effects an intelligent person.
If someone approached me and said that I had offended them a month ago and they were here to make it right, I would probably inquire as to why this critical conversation took a month to happen. Were they working up a battle plan to get even? Did they let it go but are bringing it up now because that is the only common subject or bond we share? Did they have to work up the courage because they felt I would receive the message negatively? Why now?
From there, no matter what the answer, I would leave them with an apology to make them feel good about making it right. Then it would go one of 2 ways. I would either share less with them on an ongoing basis, knowing my true self will likely cause them stress or drama in the future and they need a filter in interactions. Not every associate has to be a friend. The second way would be a candidly handled connection where I would appreciate the effort it took to make it right, an encouragement to not let this type of thing stew and live rent free in a brain, and most motley a stronger bond going forward.
Truth is, as I get older, I appreciate the dumbasses dumbassing earlier in our relationship so that I know early on how little time I should spend with them. I can only care so much about so many things before it starts to wear me thin. I am sure I appear aloof to certain people but perhaps that is the mysterious aura I need.
Most people are welcome to enter but fewer people are invited to stay.
"Busy" was the reply. An odd reply in my opinion, if they felt so strongly.
I think that it might have been this, or a little Dutch courage. I found it interesting because they essentially have plenty of opportunity to bring it up, and they also have had plenty of opportunity to see my interactions with others, which are uniformly equal, unless they are friends. This is the minefield - people want to be treated equally, yet demonstrate that they can't be trusted when they are.
This is the way I went and said that they should bring these things up quickly, as it allows for us both to grow.
I try not to let these things get to me, but I also try not to change much myself, since I know that I treat people well and I know I never intend to upset anyone. I want life to be enjoyable and this constant witch hunt so that people never have to improve their own emotional control, makes life worse.
Busy.
This is the lamest most ignorant excuse out there as far as I am concerned. If there was a month worth of things that took precedence over this in importance, then it was either not important at all or they are not telling the truth. Either way, thank you for bringing it up, you get the diet version of me from here on in.
Their witch hunts and drama shows are their own. I refuse to play stupid games for those stupid prizes and happily retire from each of them as I find myself swept into one. Easier said than done but fun to practice.
I think this is part of getting older. We have just grown tired of putting up with ass clowns and are no longer tolerant. Kind of like me and jalapenos.😀
There is definitely something about getting older and having your perspective shift to see a much bigger world out there. When you're younger, your world is so small so you put up with a lot of shit because you think you have to. It's not until you're older that you realize you can make new friends, get a new job, go live in a new city, etc.
Yep, Your circle of friends seems to get smaller too. And it ain't because they are dying off.😀
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