The only one I've found so far is being the best human possible according to my values,
The challenge for Lily (and all decent children) is that they are going to grow up with a lot of kids that have been raised very poorly, with bad habits and terrible values.
That's why I focus so much on teaching her how to deal with those people. Stoic approaches, communication tactics, self-esteem, a little bit of everything, with reduced complexity (e.g. displayed in selected books for children) for her to understand step by step. It's hard though to be alone in that, the only support I have is from a few other parents in my community that understand the significance of this. Another reason why I cherish community so much 😅^
By the way, how's Smallsteps doing in her new school? If I missed the post about that, I'll look for it. The last one I remember reading was about her making a friend through sharing a GF meal 😅
Yeah I get it. So many say "let kids be kids" without recognising that the childhood they have designed for their kids is unnatural and makes them far weaker in the future.