Lately, I've been in my head, running all kinds of scenarios, trying to figure out how those who are older than us managed to make it big. Like at this point, it almost seems like we have it worse out of all that is going on.
Not to sound like my walls are crumbling or that my case is unique because it's not, but I wish there was a template to life. I mean, we have been told that life is unfair and what may work for someone else may not work for you based on all kinds of factors like environment, parental influence, talents and skill level, finances, connections, etcetera. But I still feel like there should be a pattern to follow. If everyone has to find their own way in life, their own unique way based on their situation, then how long is it going to take?
Many times I worry about how to break out of the already unfortunate situation that tends to surround us. The internet has done a number on us by only showing us most times the good side of things. They tell us success stories, how things had worked out for some people, those are the top of the “food chain". They don't show us how those people had suffered, how much was sacrificed. The sweat, blood, devotion and commitment they had to pour in. The family they may have lost, the spouse or partners who gave up on them, the list is endless.
Many times, it's not that we don't work hard, but sometimes life may not reward some type of hardwork, everybody is working hard on one thing or the other, but not all of them are receiving the same results from the work they are putting in. Which begs the questions: Where is the place for doing what you love if what you love is costly and needs support, especially financially? How do you deal with doing what you love as opposed to doing what must be done to salvage the situation? Where is the place for passion if it can't feed you or take care of your family?
The few solutions I've seen include reading books. Unlike the internet where people keep up appearances and life is painted like a bed of roses, books give you hard facts to deal with, you can see the journey to the peak of whoever you are studying. You learn their thought process, see their failures and small wins on their way to the peak.
Another is to have a physical mentor, teacher or guide. Someone who has been where you want to be and is willing to bring you there, willing to pour their experiences and resources into you.
Finding mentors like that may take time and have varying costs, but books are easier to come by. Nothing to do but bury ourselves in them.
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STOPSo what is your goal?
Simply put, my goal is to learn life, thrive in it and be a blessing for those in my world.
And what does “succeed in life” mean?
This is a definition I believe anyone should and will find for themselves, my definition of success will differ and may seem like an imposition to another's beliefs.
I think giving your life for something bigger than you can be attributed to succees. What do you think?
What could be bigger than yourself?..
You may believe that you are here to accomplish many remarkable and important things, to achieve or attain something, but you are here to be happy. All your plans, goals, and dreams distract you from your present happiness. Ask yourself - “Am I happy right now?”
Quite correct, like I mentioned earlier, it's natural to look out for yourself first, before any other thing. A broken person can't fix another.