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RE: Thoughts over coffee: Part twelve - A better you part two

in Reflections2 months ago

Listen to hear what's being said rather than thinking up your response.

All of this was great advice, but this one especially gets me a lot. If I find myself about to interrupt someone or waiting to talk as soon as they are done speaking, I know I'm back in a rut of listening to respond instead of just listening.

Another piece of advice I picked up from a book about listening. After someone says something, it's not always good to respond with a "me too" story and put the focus on yourself. It's often better to ask follow-up questions about their story.

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I think we all do it, especially with slow talkers, people who aren't very interesting and other such individuals. I do it from time to time but try not to, especially at work.

Yep, that last point you make...that's a good one for sure. It's good in business and also social situations.