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Ever since I can remember, I have noticed that there are people who can get on my nerves.
I have mentioned this here, and even in some of the posts I made this week. I was at a retreat, which, although not my first, somehow convinced me that I had to change inside. Fortunately, since August, I feel like I am a better person. A version of myself that is more connected with herself.
This connection and sense of purpose have brought other very positive things. One of them was greater clarity about a group of people with whom I identify to a certain extent, but whose characteristics I don't fully share. I say this without any sense of superiority, quite the contrary. Something that until recently I thought could be a sign of fragility or weakness, I now see as a sign of differentiation.
There are people among us who feel everything very deeply, those who think too much.
Those whose hearts are programmed to perceive every change in tone in the other person's voice, or every slightly delayed response. Those who interpret entire stories from a single word of text.
Those who replay conversations, searching for hidden meanings, and who love so carefully because they are afraid of making mistakes.
Their happiness often depends on the mood of others, their inner peace depends heavily on someone else's response.
These souls did not choose to be this way, their hearts simply came with extraordinary sensitivity, their minds with extraordinary awareness, above the norm for the human race.
What appears to be a simple need from the outside is, in fact, just fear wearing a different mask.
Fear of loss, fear of abandonment, fear of giving too much and still ending up alone.
But here is the beautiful truth about these deep souls. They love with such intensity that most people cannot understand or even conceive of it being possible.
These people remember the little things, understand what is left unsaid, and feel what is forgotten.
They just need someone patient enough to understand that their extraordinary caution stems from wounds that have left equally extraordinary scars.
Someone who knows that reassuring them is not neediness, but helping them calm a mind that has been hurt before. Because someone taught them that love goes away when things get tough, and they are still learning that not everyone leaves.
If you ever come across someone who seems hypersensitive, remember that they may be someone with extraordinary insight and sensitivity, who has invariably been hurt on one or more occasions.
The pain we all go through when going through a difficult time is perceived by them as excruciating. And they would never even imagine inflicting such atrocity on another.
So try to be more attentive. Although I am not hypersensitive, I consider myself to be more sensitive than a rock, and today, with some humility, I can understand the pain they constantly go through.
Try to leave this world a little better than you found it. If we all do our small part, believe me, it will certainly make a big difference.
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