Hello dear community ❤️✌️ I find myself today writing this post to tell you about when you know you should leave a relationship or someone place. Topic created by @rosahidalgo, which caught my attention a lot because as human beings and creators of interpersonal and interpersonal relationships, sometimes it costs us a lot or we are an eagle to decipher the signs of when it's time to leave and close a chapter in our lives.
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¡Es hora de emigrar!
It's time to emigrate!
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To begin with, I had married in March 2019, together with my husband we sold everything we needed with a view towards moving to Tenerife. My husband emigrated first in June 2019 by mutual agreement with his younger sister who would receive him. I had to wait a little longer for him to get a job and have an economic cushion to be by his side. Previous agreement with my sister-in-law for the issue of stay, my time came and on December 1, 2019 with my suitcases full of dreams and desires, I set foot for the first time in the Canary Islands.
The first days living with my sister-in-law were great. Days of going out, restaurants and shopping for what Tenerife was like. I was a bit scared but being hand in hand with my husband, everything was more bearable. The main idea was for me to get a job, get together a good sum of money and move but - there is always a but - the Coronavirus pandemic arrived. We had to be locked up for three months starting March 13, 2020 (I remember the date very well) and our plans went down the drain. We had to be patient, we knew how but my husband's sister did not. She is a very anxious person and does not know the meaning of "living together". It is quite torturous when there are people who don't know how or don't want to give in.
After several rather uncomfortable episodes of coexistence in which it is better not to be so explicit, I with zero tolerance was wondering if it was really necessary to emigrate from my country and my comforts to live with people who did not know how to look beyond their noses and their own needs. I even thought of breaking my marriage even though I loved my husband. Imagine how uncomfortable I felt. Every day I would burden my husband asking him why he had brought me to Tenerife under these conditions, I could not stand it anymore. The idea that was always in my head was to go back to Venezuela but it was not feasible. To cope with it, my husband and I would go out for a coffee outside so we could talk and be at ease for a while before returning to the fateful routine with our roommates.
¡El coronavirus atraso los planes!
Coronavirus delayed plans
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With our savings it was impossible to move, people had gone crazy with the conditions for renting. But we paid the just for sinners. Many people during the confinement stopped paying their rent because they didn't have a single euro saved and the landlords rightly tightened their rental conditions. Many people here live from day to day and are zero savers. It was not our case, but we were all lumped together. It was already August and by July 2020, my husband's employment contract had run out. We were still looking for a place to move, we saw nice places but because of the fact that by that time my husband did not have an employment contract and "fixed" was a stumbling block.
Every day I prayed to God for a job until September when it arrived. It was far from my dream job but I had to take it no matter what because I was desperate to move because I couldn't take it anymore. I cried every night because of how uncomfortable I felt. I started my job as a live-in caregiver for a dependent elderly person. I spent 6 days as a live-in caregiver in a house with a whole family. At the beginning everything went well when I received my first payment, but after that it became tedious to be in a place with so many people. Different personalities, moods and I really liked being alone. I don't make myself uncomfortable so that they don't make me uncomfortable.
"Cada quien en su sitio"
Everyone in his place
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After several attempts, we managed to get out of my sister-in-law's apartment on October 31, 2020, thanks to her landlady who had a friend with a soon-to-be vacated apartment quite far from the main avenue of the area we were used to. One of the happiest days since I had arrived in Tenerife. The excitement of having my own space did not fit in my chest because we would no longer sleep on an old mattress on the floor, in the middle of the living room. Living with my sister-in-law there was no intimacy or privacy for me and my husband and this had me on the verge of collapse. I thanked God every day that I found my own space because things changed for the better. My husband and I managed to iron out our differences and although there was no apology from my sister-in-law, what made us talk to each other again was the arrival of my son. These events occurred in 2020 and my son was born in 2022. The same thing happened to my brother-in-law and his girlfriend living with my sister-in-law. Even my in-laws arrived last year in Tenerife, they live with my sister-in-law and are going through the same situation.
¿Moraleja?
Reflections?
Soy consciente de que no somos moneditas de oro para caerle bien a todo el mundo pero si no estás dispuesto o no sabes convivir con los demás es mejor tener su propio espacio y no negociar tu paz. El respeto y tolerancia debe ser la base de toda convivencia. Pero si no se hallan, lo más conveniente es que cada uno en su sitio y todos felices. De esta manera conservamos relaciones sanas y nadie se mete donde no le han llamado. Yo soy muy colaboradora pero donde no me quieren marco la milla. Además, soy amante del silencio, la soledad y la paz; cuando estás se rompen un tiende a incomodarte y el espíritu decae.
I am aware that we are not golden coins to be liked by everyone but if you are not willing or do not know how to live with others it is better to have your own space and not negotiate your peace. Respect and tolerance should be the basis of all coexistence. But if they are not found, the best thing to do is to keep everyone in their own place and everyone happy. In this way we keep healthy relationships and no one meddles where they have not been called. I am very collaborative but where I am not wanted I go the extra mile. Besides, I am a lover of silence, solitude and peace; when these are broken a tends to make you uncomfortable and the spirit declines.
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