One thing I love about these games is you can ALMOST play how you want. Want to just drive around and see the map? Go for it. Want to explore a new town? Why not. Want to be a hellion on the server and run the lobby? Okay, not sure what people get out of ruining others fun but go for it. Want to hide and wait? You can do it.
I get why people do not like these types of games, they are narrow mindedly thinking about the options available. Often thinking it is just run and gun when it is so much more.