This happened to me yesterday. I was "bitchy" and I couldn't even tell why that was the case. There was no particular place where I could point to as being the source of my frustration, I was just mad.
I have a relatively simple yet stress-free life. I don't have an office that I have to go to, I don't have a commute, I don't have children, I don't really have any time-oriented restrictions on my life at all. Yet yesterday was just one of those days where everything made me upset, and I mean everything.
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I'm not one to take out my frustration on other people, so I decided that yesterday I was just going to stay away from other people and go for a really long walk and try to think happy thoughts. There is a direction you can head in on the beach where I live and if you go south, there is almost nobody there, so I walked for an hour in that direction and somehow, the world still found ways to get under my skin.
It was nice for a while and walking on the beach can be a very relaxing experience, especially if you aren't constantly dodging other people and listening to the constant whistles of the lifeguards, the booming sound systems of the beach bars, and the cars with their constant beeping of horns on the nearby street. This can only be accomplished by walking south from the main Da Nang strip. But like I said above, nature found a way of annoying me.
I started to get angry at things that have nothing to do with my life such as eyesore abandoned construction projects and graffiti. I started talking to myself sometimes out loud and I guess it was a good thing that nobody else was around because I probably looked like a crazy person. I also started to get annoyed by the fact that no matter where I walked I couldn't find solid ground. Compacted sand is nice to walk on, especially if it is a bit wet and not hot. But the ocean had other things in mind for me as did the sand.
The sand on the right is too loose to walk on comfortably, and on the left the waves were coming in and making walking difficult as well, disrupting the flow of what was supposed to be a relaxing and mind-clearing walk.
At one point I turned on podcasts on Spotify and started to get annoyed about everything I listened to. I discovered that when Joe Rogan has fellow comedians on his show that they spend 3 hours interrupting one another and constantly changing the subject. I normally really like this show but I wasn't going to deal with that. So I listened to someone else that I have heard things about, Russel Brand, who I appreciated as an actor. His podcast is clearly meant to be watched, not listened to while walking, because he kept referencing things that he had video for so I couldn't follow what he was talking about so I turned that off as well. Then I pulled up an audio show that was "facts of the world" only to have the words be read, sometimes incorrectly, by an AI voice. Is it really so difficult to actually read a script that you wrote? Are we that lazy now?
So eventually I just turned the headphones off and now I am getting annoyed at how the headphones are blocking the natural sound of the sea but they are too small and lose-able for me to take them out.
When I returned to where the people are, I got annoyed about how there are too many people here, then as crossing the street I got annoyed about how people with vehicles don't give way to pedestrians at all in crosswalks (zebra crossings) and therefore the paint on the street is a waste of time.
When I did finally get home and ordered some food for delivery, I got to sit down with the one thing in my life that doesn't annoy me.
I have endless patience for Nadi although I don't think she feels the same way about me. She was getting very impatient to have some of that delicious chicken on my plate.
I was reminded of that song by Limp Bizkit called "Break Stuff" where the line was "one of those days where you don't wanna wake up, everything's fucked, everybody sucks" and well, that was my day yesterday. Even a tranquil walk on the beach couldn't cure it and because of the lack of solid ground I got home and have lost some of the skin on one of my toes due to constant friction :)
I think I might just be bitchy because I have changed my diet and am not drinking alcohol most days. Today will be better.
I don't often have days like this but I think they are just part of life. Have you experienced one recently?
I've had days like that, where everything is annoying, and you just want to scream at the world. I try to walk it off as you did, or just shut down my mind with either meditation or podcast or classical music (when I'm in a bad mood, anything with words tends to annoy me). Walking usually helps. But not always. In the worst cases, I just go to bed.
haha, just go to bed. yeah, that would probably work. Maybe next time I'll try that.
This is very relatable, there's just days like that. Little things can build up and make one day go way off. Even a nice walk on the beach can't clear your head when everything feels the way. Perhaps as the day passes and you wake up to the next day, it'll be a different mood
It was funny reading about your day, although I know it wasn't funny for you to go through it. You know we all have days like that and the best thing you can do is just try to live till the end of the day. It's more difficult, when you have a 9 to 5 job and have to deal with all kinds of idiots you can't avoid.
On a different note, i can't blame Nadi for being impatient around your food. I would have been too, especially when delivered to me, ready to eat 😂
I'm so happy that I found a way to not have a 9-5. I was part of that world for many years and I am very careful with my current employment as well as my savings so that I never have to return to it.
Maybe it is your body detoxing lol. Go and have a beer because being bitchy is not you. I think it can happen to all of us, but at lest you spotted it.
I think there is a very good chance you are correct about this. The other afternoon an old friend was visiting so I had a few drinks and yeah, the stress melted away. That's not a good crutch to have though, so I am going to just have to power through this in some other way.
i think mood affects weather. just like me if its too hot or if summer is approaching i feel a very little patience hahaha but if it is winter or rainy days i was happy and having cold mind. this is based on my experience and perspective.
If you only have one day like that a year, you are still doing pretty good. That's where a lot of people live and it tends to be a miserable experience for them I think. I find myself there more often than I should, but thankfully it never usually lasts too long. I guess having a short memory is a good thing sometimes!
Your environment greatly influences your attitude I think. I am constantly annoyed by the noise and congestion of people here so I have to be pretty choosy about where I go. Sometimes just going up to the roof of my building near the pool and getting about a close as I can to a quiet place, is my sanctuary. Recently someone sent me a TED talk about how noise pollution greatly contributes to overall stress and even though I harp on about how my life is relatively stress-free this is a massive factor in my life and unfortunately, there isn't anything I can do about it other than close my doors and just be a recluse.
What about noise cancelling headphones with some kind of white noise or brown noise app running in the back. It doesn't have to be super loud, but just that constant hum to kind of drown things out?
Hmm Nadi is more interested on the food in your plate, but you must not annoy Nadi else Nadi would make some noise.
nah... she quietly sits there are waits. I always give her a bit of the chicken and sometimes she will even eat tomatoes
I can relate to you; I also have days when I get angry easily for no reason. It’s probably because I’m thinking too much, which leads to annoyance. Fortunately, there is always someone who will accept us no matter what, and that’s our furry pets.
yep. my dog could tell I was in a foul mood and she was following me everywhere and sitting close. It is amazing how they can read our minds
Hmm... I think it's a choice to live happier(and when there's no choice). Sometimes bad luck just finds its ways towards me, and mind you not once, usually more than twice of those bad things repeatedly. Yes, "break stuff" is in my mind when those series of shit hits my fan.
Now that you have mentioned it, it could really be that withdrawal symptoms 😅 may be diet coke can help?
good idea. I need more food... haha. Cheat day can't get here fast enough
Some days just hit differently, every little thing grates on your nerves and nothing seems to go right. And you start questioning why you're reacting the way you are, which only makes it worse.
I can relate because there were days that everything annoyed me, and I just went back to bed and sleep 😀
i probably did need a nap. Come to think of it I was very tired by 6pm and went to bed really early.
Oh! That was too early to be in bed. I hope you had a good sleep and woke up feeling great 😀
We all have those days when everything feels overwhelming—you’re not alone! 😔 It’s okay to feel frustrated, and acknowledging it is the first step. Sometimes, the smallest things (like a deep breath, a walk, or a favorite song) can help shift the mood even just a little.
Hope tomorrow is brighter for you! 💛 What’s your go-to way to reset on tough days? (Mine is tea + angry cleaning, haha.)
exercise is my go to... but there are so many people here that when I get to the gym and there are too many people there it just makes the situation worse.
I can relate with that feeling; there are times or days when we are hot-tempered and quite difficult to control our mood. There are also days when I can't seem to focus on what I am supposed to do. Our recent political situations annoy me too. At least, you somehow realized what could have could caused that "bitchy" mood which is change of diet. Now, I wonder perhaps my lack of sleep and sleeping late every night could be the reason. Sometimes, not overthinking is also necessary and letting go of things that I don't have control over.
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The only thing that was missing is for me to stub my toes on a piece of furniture haha