I can relate to this, not only as someone who has been the supportive friend, but as the person who has listened to advice and then done the opposite! I think that sometimes people want/need to argue with another person because they know they may not be making the best decision but they need to defend the decision to someone other than themselves. I also feel like sometimes those who ask advice around a clearly poor decision are trying to break a pattern and truly do want help, but end up going down the same bad path once again. Hopefully it's progress for them, even if it's annoying and offensive to the friend that gave advice.
Sounds like your friend was not in the zone to listen to anyone, though. Hopefully he is learning from his mistakes and not blaming others...
Great post!
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I didn't mean to make this post about my friend or what he did, it was just to highlight the fact that most often people will only listen to what they want to hear.
The truth or reality on the ground doesn't seem to be important to them in a heady emotional moment like that.
I do see what you are getting at.
Sadly he is struggling with his life at so many levels and losing his mind now.
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Of course! I appreciate what you shared in this post so much.