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There are so many people who for reasons best known to them say 'Yes' when they want to say 'No' deep down in their mind. Most times we think that when we say no we may be perceived as being rude or we may be scared that we may lose our relationship with the other party. We may even feel that the other person may feel bad when we give a negative response. If we carry out an experiment by randomly selecting about twenty different people and they are told to stay in the same space for a specific period of time, very few will have the confidence to turn down the other person without thinking about the opinion of others.
Most times when we say 'yes' as opposed to saying 'no' we may end up in some 'had I known moment' because we care too much about other people's feelings and our relationship with them. When in actual fact it is your own emotions that you put through unnecessary mental stress by allowing it to be treated like it doesn't have an value. It is important to always know that your happiness should always come first because you cannot please everyone. It is a beautiful feeling and experience when you know that you are the reason people around you are happy but it more beautiful when you don't use pain or dying in silence to pay the price.
It is very important to master the art of saying no if you want to have a sound state of mind. Sooner or later you may become mentally and physically exhausted when you please people too much at the expense of yourself. Saying no is key to maintaining a healthy relationship because it will help all the parties involved to set boundaries. We all have limits as humans and this is the primary reason we have the option of choosing between yes and no. We should be able to express our opinions freely without fear or concerns about what other people feel.
However, there are people who also abuse the use of 'yes'. We should think carefully and answer with sincerity to ourselves when we are faced with any situation. For instance, there is the story of a medical practitioner who has been working for several hours without enough rest and food, when it wqs about time for his shift to be over he was told that the doctor on the next shift can't make it and he should cover up. He said yes without hesitation. He may have good reasons - to save lives. But he failed to listen to his body that he needs rest. Few hours later he became a patient in the hospital because he slumped due to overworking and exhaustion. In this case, a simple no would have saved the situation. There would have been a request for someone else who is in a more stable frame of mind to take up the responsibilities.
It is important to respond to issues unapologetically whether you are saying yes or no. You don't have to be overly polite by mincing words or finding it difficult to use the right expression just because you want to please people. In addition, developing your self esteem is also a key factor that can boost your confidence when accepting or rejecting an offer.
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