Self-Awareness in Relationships: Setting Boundaries and Prioritizing Compatibility

I’ve come to realize that as human beings, we just have to settle our differences. We are all different, and we just can’t meet up with every single expectation the other party has in mind. Toleration is one of the most important factors in any kind of relationship you could find yourself in. You’ve just got to select the kind of person you can tolerate and roll with.

And that’s one personality trait about myself I love so much. The moment I sense a red flag in any form of relationship I might be in at an early stage, I tend to try to see if there’s a way we both could work on it before going any further. Because I have come to realize that I no longer get carried away with the first moments shared. I don’t want to be in any form of relationship where we start getting along, and after some weeks or months, we become strangers again.

I'd rather not associate myself with you any deeper for my own good. Because I barely roll with people that much again, compared to how I used to when I was in my prime or in the early stages of my life. For the benefit of both parties, I tend to see if it’s a kind of relationship that I can cope with. I don’t tend to get carried away with the early stages of the relationship. Because I mean, it’s always so much fun and great till you begin to know each other better, and then you start to have issues over and over again.

Which, if you ask me, I will state for a fact that it could have been avoided only if you were attentive enough to not ignore those red flags you noticed earlier. But sometimes, we don’t, as human beings tend to not know or get to see red flags in an early stage for some individuals. You would actually think at first that they are people who you can easily deal with or relate with till eventually when you’ve gone deeper into the relationship.

In such a kind of scenario for me, I will actually have to end things for my own good and for the good of the other person. Take, for instance, being friends with a cocaine addict. And while you were getting to know this person initially, you never once got to see a part of him that does that. Do you now think on a personal level I will want to continue such a kind of relationship? Hell no!.

I mean, not because I necessarily want to cut ties with the person in a condemnable way, but then, we literally do not have anything in common. He can’t be sniffing cocaine, and I stand there, staring at him all the time. It's definitely going to get on his nerves one day, and he will literally find a way to make me become a part of his shitty act. So rather than letting that happen, I'd rather just avoid him to avoid a story that touches the heart.

Some will say they can still manage to be friends with them regardless of the circumstances. But in my own opinion, I don’t see a reason why I’d want to be around people that we don’t have something in common with. It naturally just makes me feel off or uncomfortable when I’m there. So for that sake, like they say, “prevention is better than cure.” Currently laughing at the person that might end up saying, “I can never be caught up in such an act no matter how bad the situation might be. So you literally think you're better than people found guilty? Lmao 😂. I’m currently laughing so hard and shaking my head for you in a funny way. Because we are only humans. We are unpredictable.

And change is one of the most powerful factors that can turn things around. I’ve also got to realize better as a human being that we tend to find ourselves doing what we criticize the most in the dark space. Which is something above our ability as humans to control in most cases. So in my own opinion, you tend to have a deeper understanding of who you are and what you want to be associated with. If a friendship doesn’t work because of your differences with a person, I feel like it’s a good sign to work with. In conclusion, you’re in charge of your life, and you decide who stays or leaves!. Thank you for reading, and this is my response to the #hiveleaners weekly prompt.