When it comes to bringing up children, determining how their behavior will turn out depends on so many factors and of course, the gene that runs in them plays a role as well. Behaviors are usually characteristics in us that changes and they can easily be influenced. Usually, children’s behaviors are formed by what they are learning from the people around them. The things they see, hear and are taught that they often agree with. Naturally, as humans, the part of being teachable is where our parents come in because they are the first people we interact with. If our parents are people that don’t like learning, it will be hard for a child to develop a behavior by learning and even if they do, that behavior will be more from their parents. That way, it will seem like the child inherited the behavior from his or her parents.
According to the hivelearners topic, we are asked to share our thoughts on BEHAVIORS, whether they are learnt or inherited. As much as the genes in us are important for most trait in us, our genes are always open to changes. And these changes are caused by different factors that we are surrounded with. So depending on what a child is exposed to, they usually get one or two behaviors from these factors. So usually, when we display a new behavior, we’ve actually been seeing it somewhere or constantly been exposed to it and we only just displayed it at a time when we thought it was needed. Except in spiritual cases, it is a behavior we’ve learnt over time.
It is also safe to say that we have all the behaviors in us, our environments and the things that surrounds us just help us activate them. We are now the ones responsible to either allow them or discard them.
There have been so many instances when a child grows up with good parents and still ended up becoming or having bad behaviors and vice versa. The truth is, this is so because children aren’t only exposed to their parents. They see how other parents treat their own children. How other people behave, and they either choose to learn from them, or just grow that rebellious attitude towards what they are being taught just because they feel they’ve been controlled for too long or something (which they also learnt from someone). And this is why a good girl becomes a bad girl once she gets into a space where she now gets to make some rules.
I believe one major factor that determines how a child will grow up to behave is their perspectives of things around them. If they think they don’t have to be good, that is what they will continue to lean towards. If they believe that they are already the best, that’s what they will lean towards. If they believe they don’t need any advice from people, that’s what they will lean towards and so much more. Their minds will only grow depending on how much they are open to learning and that in turn affects how they behave. They hardly ever inherit anything that won’t be changeable if they are open to learning, be it something good or bad.
Our behaviors improve more when we are able to learn and unlearn. As long as we are right in our own eyes or comfortable where we are, we will keep behaving a certain way. A person who grows up in a country will continue behaving a certain way but will see a need to change some of their behavior when they are relocated to a new environment and naturally, that’s how it works. So if a good person is always in a place that encourages their behavior, there is every tendency for them to remain that way, but when they are exposed to something different, there is this need to want to blend in or fight again against it.
But yes, there are some core behaviors that are only gotten from the genes we posses, like our temperaments. Yes, we can learn to adapt to different temperaments but we will always have our core temperaments which are built in our genes.
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Thank you. 🥰
I agree with you that we've lots of factors that shape and determines an individual behaviour, from how their wired, to how their nurtured, not forgetting their choices and life experience that influence things around an individual.
Thank you for agreeing with me, GP and also for your contribution. 🥰
Yes, most behavior can be inherited anyway, but the ones we learned are more. We learn so many behaviors from friends and from parents.
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