We've talked about how we can let friends and acquaintances go when they draw us back or keep us stuck. What do we do when our families are the ones drawing us back?
The caption on this topic has already paid justice to this question. Firstly, the way I grade acquaintances is how I grade situations like this when it comes to family-related issues. Mind you that they are not the ones living my life; I own and I manage how I really want it to turn out for me.
Despite the fact that in many scenarios my own family is always out there fighting for my interest, that shouldn't be a reason to be left out with no decision on my own. Every man has a say and has control over his or her own life; it is always better that I make decisions and fail and bear the blame than that some person or group of people as a family makes plans and I fail them. It hurts me so much, especially when I have a say but can't execute it.
In different scenarios, I have come to witness such that I made my plan known to my family member, whose reply was actually no. I insisted even when they were not backing me up; that alone tells me that I am not a kid but am now mature enough to make the line of decision for myself. For me, I will never allow anyone to trap me, the reason being that I own what I do, be it for whoever, and I have either the credit or the blame to carry at last.
Remember there is no road in backsliding in anything; even when my family is the one dragging me, I see it as backsliding. I will keep on rising up and keep making attempts at what I desire; never will I be in the shadow of what others think. My shadow is the surest coverage over what speaks on my behalf of my decision-making, which defines a way out in trying, letting me understand that there is no harm in trying and at the same time, the future belongs to those who are inspired not by what others say but by their thoughts.
It could be from a place of love and care, but they just simply choose not to see things our way. And in the interest of personal growth, you either leave them behind or remain stuck with them. How do you make such a choice?
I will never mind making my decision stand, stuck with their decision. Just define the whole scenario that I have no say. I wouldn't justify it with the approach of care they have for me, because I believe that you can only learn when you try it out, stuck with their own opinion, leaving no personalised futuristic agenda for you.
Remember that love and care can be compromised unknowingly, which is the back end of it. You might not recognise it at the early stage, which is the downfall I may experience in the future without my concept, but with my concept, I define everything with clarity.
There is no other way to make my choice over what they have for me than to listen to my instinct voice behind what my mind is telling me to do and execute it accordingly, which intercepts any kind of thought. That is what makes my concept clear and defines the future for me. I always love bearing the blame when I am the one responsible for what decisions I took, and that is the approach I think I can bring forth for this.
My choice is based on what suits me and what I cherish and not what people cherish on my behalf, which you have the option in between to make. Provided there is an option between the lines, I will never fail to take what pleases me most because I am entitled to answer for it and not my family member answering the queries for me.
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Yes, you can only learn when you try it out
I like that you use firm and action words.
When it comes to family, you need to be firm in your decisions else you could 'backslide' like you said
Is true friendz well replied, I really appreciate your effort for going through this post, well done
You're welcome man
Thank You
Hi, I recommend you to take care of you KE, probably you noticed that you aren't getting support of this community. Try to low down bellow 10 and probably you will see some good votes =)
Oh... Thank you some much, I try to do as you said