So, there was this lady I used to be very close to some years back, we met at work and before you know it we had became so close a friend. We laughed, gossip, chat, gist and do almost everything together. We got so close to the extent that she do share personal stuffs with me and we do get along well. She closes early but I can't get to close until maybe my boss is set to go home or release me himself, unlike her, she can go home anytime from 4pm. But then, she would wait for me till whenever I close, sometimes early and sometimes late. Her place is not far, it's a trekable distance, but I would need to take a bike to get to my own house. I would escort her home and then take bike from there.
In short, we were very close, that kind of friendship did feel worthy enough to hold on to, she once got angry for few days, when I asked her why, she said it's because I saved her number with her name whereas she saved my as BFF. I apologized and immediately changed it.
After about a year, she was already preparing for her HND(Higher National Diploma), we talked, I helped reached out to the people I know because admission here isn't that easy, we planned, I encouraged her and all. She gained admission and that was how everything changed. At first I thought it was just the pressure in school, you know she just gained admission, but then the distance kept increasing, she was staying in school area already and had quit work as well. Suddenly everything just went dry, she's the one who's always disturbing me with messages and calls, non of that is happening anymore.
Even if I call, there are times she wouldn't pick, and if she does she's always in haste to end the call, I asked if I had offended her and she even swore that I didn't, it was just school. The stress and all. I even visited her once and I almost blamed myself for going. Of a truth, we were just friends, I had grown into liking her, but she has a boyfriend, so I had let go of that, but then, I did value our friendship. And guess what, I still didn't give up, I messaged, called and all, I even do send Happy New Month messages each month, she wouldn't even respond with an emoji let alone a same here.
I don't seem to understand why she choose to be like that, she has become a very big part of melt life and it was eleven easy for her to let me go, and that hurts. Suddenly treating me as if I was invisible. At some point, I had to accept things for what it is, maybe there are new people and new friendships too, and I was no longer important. Whatever the reason may be, I was already tired of forcing myself into a space that wasn't welcoming. So, I let her go to, that was my only choice. And I am one to never look back, that was why I did all I could just so I wouldn't lose her.
Then, out of nowhere, just last week she messaged me. I was surprised to see where message, I didn't open it though, I thought of the reason she might be messaging me, I guessed maybe it was about my NYSC as that was what it would have been, every other thing seems to not really add up, maybe she needs someone to ask somethings or she just wanted help regarding to it. But I didn't open the message talk less of replying, guess what the following day, she messaged again, guess what she wrote "“You, you don't want to respond to my messages abi." That sentence annoyed me, I was almost tempted to open the message, but I kept my calm. I wanted to blast her and ask how long she's been seeing my own messages without responding, almost a year. The fact that I didn't want to end my friendship with you didn't make me a dummy, I just value people and friendships, but since you aren't putting any effort, you're gone.
I almost replied her, but I'm glad I was able to keep my calm, I didn't react or respond. For me, I have absolutely nothing to do with her anymore. I'm done begging for friendships and attention, I've grown past that. She has been ghosting me as well, so I see no reason why I shouldn't return the favor. She's gone and sincerely speaking, I don't think I want her back.
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This is what I call "aura for aura".
Though school have a way of changing people, it could be due to stress or a person discovering more about themselves. This kind of things tends to change the way they communicate with those they used to be with but you did your part trying to keep the relationship going and she just wasn't in the mood to reciprocate the affection.
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Of course, I very well understand that. School tend to change people, but her's was obviously beyond school stress and all.
I tried my best...but then. It's gone.
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You see ehn, school shouldn't be any excuse for ghosting, the lest she could have done is even reply your messages when she can online. Sometimes just once in awhile video or voice call can go a long way to keep some long term relationships
I very well understand you, even if school coil be used as an excuse, not up to that extent. We were once students too and we understand how choking and stressful it might be. But then, at least there were holiday periods, she didn't reach out and it's not as if it's.....
It's just obvious she's not in anymore and I stopped reaching out to.
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Thanks.