Who doesn't want a personal space? Who would prefer anyone to control him or her or prefer being interfered with by others? I guess no one, children inclusive. In fact, even animals sometimes exhibit the attitude of "let me be," hehehe. You will notice them screaming or barking when humans approach them; sometimes, they just need their space without disturbances. So are children, and I will say a big yes, kids need privacy; it's simply a necessity, especially at the appropriate time.
However, I must admit that parenting is a delicate responsibility, especially in the aspect of privacy and children. One part of you as a parent wants to be sure that the kids aren't exposed to risk or doing something crazy behind your back; another part of you doesn't want to suffocate the kids but rather let them have their space. It looks like you don't know how much of the privacy is too much or too little, but then, you must keep striving to find a better balance to get things right; it's not easy.
I watched a fellow parent's approach to her kids on this privacy topic, and it is completely different from how I have been approaching my kids on that. It's not a problem at all; of course every parent has their unique parenting style, but we are all trying to arrive at a particular spot, which is raising responsible children in our society today. Unfortunately , some of these kids, after all their parents' effort, will still grow to turn into a different thing entirely, it sucks, and that's why I personally seek God's wisdom in the majority of the steps I take in parenting and pray for mine at all times.
To me, privacy doesn't mean I should give my kids the opportunity to do whatever they like because they need their space and because even children need privacy. Now, I have a ten-year-old child and a seven-year-old child too, whose little privacies I respect currently, but the level of privacy I allow for both of them is different. This is because I have taken my time to study them, and I discovered that giving my ten-year-old child the supposed level of privacy he needs at this time will worsen things because of his "personality." I am sorry, I won't go into detail, but just for you to understand that privacy for children differs. Just know your child, and know when you should be involved or let them breathe, but overall, they definitely need privacy.
My kids aren't grown-ups yet, but even with something as little as knocking at their door before barging into their rooms, I respect that. They don't want me to see their nakedness, lol, but you won't be closing doors at this stage; I told them, but I give them the needed space, and I guess it should tell them that I value boundaries . At times they make little notes in their diary and cover it—just something they feel is personal.They just want to have that dependency without hearing the voices of their parents and building confidence, and of course, I can trust them on certain things while monitoring their actions without controlling them but rather getting involved when the need be.
Again, quality communication is what I employ, and I guess it could help curb every unforeseen challenge as they continue to grow when I will no longer have to implement an open-door policy with them. At younger ages, like my kids, we are still observing the open-door policy, but anything from 15 years upwards, I guess I would stop and let them reclaim their needed space gradually so they wouldn't see that I am invading their space when in reality I am only showing care.
Overall, the issue of privacy is really a sensitive one, but one thing I know is that I will keep respecting my kids' needed privacy as they continue to grow, but getting involved in their lives whenever the need be is not negotiable.
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Yeah... Privacy is a very sensitive one. You can give too little and it affects the kids in the wrong way, and you give too much and it's even worse. Balance is what's most important!
Yea..balance it is , but most times , arriving at a balance is also another headache ..lol
Yes oo... I love every part of your post (as per with experience) and the way it ended. Sure they need privacy but the privacy must still be monitored and not negotiated.
May God broaden our wisdom is bringing up our kids to become who we can be proud of and be proud of themselves
Amen oo
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You are right mama this kids needs privacy more especially when the are up to age 15. I love the way you respect your kids privacy.
My dear..we are pushing to get things right ..it's not easy
It is not mama
Yes whenever the need be parents should do the needful if not things get spoiled, involving God in their lives will go a long way even in their privacy
Yes..knowing when to step in matters
I enjoyed reading your post, I feel it's coming from a place of experience.
When it has to do with parenting, I believe open communication and building a friendly relationship is key in raising kids.
With these they won't demand for privacy, but rather boundaries, and it's okay for them to demand for boundaries.
Thanks for sharing.
Yea ..I wrote from a heart that hv experienced a bit of this topic so far ..boundaries is important even if we respect their privacies
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Knowing your kids also does the trick most of the time. Some kids don’t really after about privacy if the home is a safe space for them.
At the end of the day, every parent wants what’s best for their kid.
Yes..knowing them better can help to some an extent
The end justifies the means indeed
I agree with you.
Our kids need to be respected at all time. Thanks for sharing.
Yea .they need respect too, just like adults
Yes ooo
I love everything you said. Children need their privacy but they also need care from there parents.
Yea..the both goes together
Communication is the key and I love how you train your children. As a mother, you should be able to understand what works differently for your kids and not use the same method for them. Children need privacy and at the same time, they need to be checked on every time so as not to misuse the opportunity.
Yea..the misuse of opportunity is what I am always scared of in this regard
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