Hello beautiful people. Allow me to take you on a hypothetical journey for a while, I just want to open your minds to something incredible.
Let's assume you made a list of what your mate or partner in marriage should have. This list is great, it has good written-down qualities and if you watch out for these, it is possible that you might meet with people who do not have all the qualities on that list.
Let's assume the list has the following.
A person with a good singing voice.
This is because you love gospel music and you wish to occasionally have a duet with your partner when you feel moved to or in karaoke.A person with good financial management knowledge and practice.
You are someone who spends more, although it is not a bad thing to have a manager, so you want one.A person who loves to read and write.
You are probably a writer so you would love to have someone who shares that passion.Last, but not least, you want a person who is a good chef and respectful.
This one is obvious but then, it has to be on the list as it helps you feel you have a rounded-out situation.
Now, if you take a closer look at the list you will notice that these needs on the list mainly deal with areas you want your partner to excel in.
If the list above is a real one, it could be faulty because it focuses more on what the partner can or cannot do and human beings are not static, they are dynamic and always changing. You cannot for sure say you know who they are because a year from now, they can develop new skills or habits.
To the major point, people always look for things they do not have in themselves in other people, everyone wants to be with someone who will complement them, someone who will fill the lapses they have and they do this in hopes that it would make them a 100% couple.
From observing people and situations, I have come to know that what we go around looking for in other people is already in us. As a matter of fact, we only look for these things in other people because we have yet to look inward to find them, nurture them, and bring them out. It's like the issue of starting a business to make money, but first, you must have some sort of capital which is money that is used to attract more of the same. All they need to do is nurture it so that it will multiply.
This is where it gets interesting.
Whatever you are seeking, you have to have a sample of it, it becomes the currency to getting more of it and that's why you must be honest if you are looking for honest people to relate with, you must be loving to expect to get it from other people. You can't be in a love-less relationship and expect love to come just like that.
To get respect, you must be respectful. It is the law.
To help you take away a lesson, do not demand from anyone what you aren't ready and willing to give especially if it is something you can learn, make time to find it out to know what you should do. That makes you unique and you will find that you will easily get all you desire.
If you are not ready to give it, don't expect to get it elsewhere.
