Greetings!
One of those things that is free in this world is relationships. Having or being in a relationship is as compulsory as people have taken it to be and maybe this is why people tend to stay in a toxic relationship even if it's not working for them as it ought to be.
Having said this, I would like to delve into the topic properly. Ghosting is one word that has just emerged as a term in a relationship and this term is all about avoiding or cutting someone out of one's life due to the best relationship that may be known to such a fellow.
Sometimes ghosting a family member or a friend can be so hard for us, but if the need be, I think doing so would be necessary as staying in a toxic or bad relationship can be so calamitous.
For someone like me, I would say i love to maintain good and cordial relationships with people and there's no amount of bad things done to me in a relationship, i would still continue with the relationship and this is because of my belief that bridges should not be burned even when things are not working out as expected in a relationship.
However, I would say that because of my stance on relationships, I have seen people taking me for granted as they would always do things that would get me annoyed.
One of those issues that happened to me in a relationship recently led me into ghosting one of my relatives who happened to be my cousin.
It all began when I invited my cousin to come and join me in my business venture. Although he didn't beg for the offer, I believed he needed some help to be able to live well.
So, I invited him without bringing anything on board and when he first came, things were working well between us until later last year that he began to act strangely by cornering my customers telling them he would render the services I was rendering to them at a very cheaper rate.
Although I was not aware of his dealings with most of my customers, I noticed things were not working as expected in my business.
There's even a time I told him that I was tired of the happenings around the business, but he would not even let me finish talking before consoling me. He even told me.that it's the same thing with every other business in the neighborhood. He later said he believed that there's better days ahead
However, on a particular day, one of my loyal customers came to my shop and told me about everything that's been going on right behind my back. When I heard this, I was shocked and pretended not to know. All these were happening in his absence and even when he came back, I didn't use what I had heard to react to him immediately as I had already taken the decision of cutting my ties with him.
So, after a month at that time, I began to cut ties with him and the first thing I did was to relocate the shop from the former location to another location which he didn't know about. I was able to do this when he had traveled to visit his parents in the village. After that, I blocked all our channels of communication and he wasn't able to reach out to me.
As if that's not enough, I moved out of my rented apartment to somewhere close to my new shop and also instructed some of my people that are close to him not to tell him anything about me and all these I made sure were done perfectly.
So, till now he has not been able to reach me and I'm very sure he must have tried his best to get to me, but thank God i was able to cut the ties without any regrets in me as what he did pained me and would have even cost me my life if not for the grace of God.
In conclusion, cutting ties and ghosting people is very necessary most especially when the relationship is toxic and bad.
This is my entry to week 184, edition 01 of the weekly Featured contest in the Hive Learners community.
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Hahaha, sometimes ghosting is the way out of certain situations. You wanted to build him but he was after his own interest. So if he was actually doing something bad behind your back, cutting him off was a good thing
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