Growing up, when the word "abortion" was mentioned near me, the first thought that came to my mind was that it's a sin and not something that must or should be done, and the reason for that isn't far-fetched. You see, I was raised in a Christian home, Deeper Life, to be precise, and our watchword there is holiness. Abortion, then, is seen as taking the life of someone else regardless of if the child has fully formed or not. Now that I've grown up, it's worth noting that I've a little change of perspective about it, not that I'll do it, but because there are a lot of constraints associated with pregnancy and how it affects the carrier, so in this article I'll be talking extensively about abortion based on my opinion.
On the first instance when I hear someone wants to have an abortion, the first thought that comes to mind is that if you know you're not ready to bear a child, then why did you have sex? If you know you're not ready to be a parent, then you should have probably abstained from sex. But then as I grew, I've come to understand that not everyone willingly had sex that led to them getting pregnant, so for someone who was raped, would it make sense if they got an abortion? The truth is that if you ask from a relationship perspective, they'll tell you it's a sin, and so you must keep it, but I don't think it's ideal except if the person agrees to carry such a child, because not everyone has the mental capability to carry the results of how they were molested for nine months and then raised the same for years.
So what then is my take on abortion? Well, the thing is that I don't really buy the idea; in fact, I so much don't buy the idea of abortion to the point where I had the belief that both those who do abortions and those who use birth control are the same and are both murderers. But then I've become wiser from that childish thought and opinion I used to have and now understand that there are some grounds whereby having an abortion isn't in any way bad. Take for instance the scenarios of rape I highlighted above; if you want to have an abortion for that, I don't think it's bad. Also, if you want to have an abortion because the pregnancy poses danger to your health or life, then it's never a bad thing to have an abortion for that reason.
While I believe those above ground can give one the right to have an abortion without feeling they've done something wrong, on the other hand, for those who had sex willingly and are not married and then got pregnant, I don't think having an abortion is good. Unfortunately, that's the order of the day in our world today. Just last month I overheard two students trying to get an abortion from a chemist shop I went to buy medicine from. On the other hand, we used to complain about parents who give birth and can't take care of them, so should it then be ideal if a married couple has an abortion when they're pregnant because they fear they can't cater to such a child and don't want to bring them into the world only to make them suffer?
Talking about if the man or partner of a woman should be aware before his partner has an abortion, it's worth noting that my take might sound biased, probably because I'm a man, but then I think since both are partners and are adults, then they should be able to sit each other down and iron out the situation maturely, knowing what's at stake and what the proper steps are to take. I mean, you can't, because of your desire to have children, risk the life of your partner, for whom pregnancy poses a risk to their life. So my take is that the father should be aware before any action is taken, but peradventure you've noticed as a lady that such a man lacks empathy after previous encounters, then it's best to do things behind him to avoid causing a rift in your relationship.
In conclusion, although I don't buy the idea of abortion and my belief is also against it, I'll not stand against it if keeping such a pregnancy will endanger the life of the mother or if such a child or pregnancy will be seen as a testament to the kind of molestation the mother went through while being raped. Aside from those two reasons, I don't buy the idea. I believe any other reason why you want to indulge in abortion would have made you just indulge in birth control from the onset.
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Most ladies always resort to going backwards to get abortion with unqualified people and end up losing their lives.
If you don’t want to have children why have sex. If you want to have sex use condom.
That's just it, either abstain or use protection.
And for those who used unqualified people to carry out these act, it's dishearting seeing how many lives such as claimed.
It’s sad, but people will still do it.
I see no reason why a woman should go back to a man without empathy.
In clinics, abortion are also counted as giving birth and women are usually being warned not to lie about it during anti natal registration.
Lastly abortion can be done when a woman experiences miscarriage so abortion may be a way of creating room for another pregnancy. @beckyroyal, please read this and and share your thoughts
Firstly, as Christian's, it is a sin to take a life but the Bible says that there'll be a time when knowledge will abound in the earth and this era is that time. I said that because in the past, many pregnant mothers died from medical ignorance and many had still births due to the same factor. Medical science was not as advanced then but now, it is is incredibly advanced that even at just 4 weeks, doctors can detect anomalies with a fetus and they can advise a mother to keep or abort the baby.
Even for ectopic pregnancies, that is very dangerous to the mother. Doctors will never advice a woman to keep an ectopic pregnancy and this is for her safety.
I was once admitted in a general hospital and next to me was a young lady with her man. I noticed how she was unusually visiting the restroom every 15mins and after some hours, I asked curiously, what was wrong with her.
She humbly replied me that her almost five months pregnancy was problematic. Apparently after a scan, it was revealed they her amniotic sac was not fully formed and thus it would endanger her life if she carried to full term plus, she would lose the baby. So she was medically advised to terminate the pregnancy and that was what happened. The doctors gave her a pill that did the trick and the fetus passed out as blood from her body.
In cases like this, abortion is justified.
But when I think about those who live immoral and reckless lives having an abortion, I just shake my head because they don't understand the gravity of the risks they're taking.
Abortion comes with a lot of risks than benefits. Married couples should not opt for an abortion if peradventure they feel that their numbers are increasing too much. There are many families in need of children to adopt. They should give the kids out for adoption.
Like you said, aside rape or medical emergency, having an abortion is just not right on all levels.. physically, emotionally, spiritually, mentally and morally.
Yeah, if it will endanger the life of the mother, it's better to be aborted. Thanks for sharing.