Everyone wants to feel loved and accepted in whatever situation they find themselves, but does that make rejection inherently bad?, Rejection is something we all hate and always hope won't get the better of us, Why not check out this article to learn about my encounter with rejection, how I handled it, and whether I consider rejection to be entirely negative or to have some benefits.
Rejection can take many different forms, whether it's in a romantic relationship, at the office, in a business, or even by a supreme being like God. However, even though everyone who has experienced rejection has always felt bad about it, rejection is not always bad. In fact, it can sometimes be an eye opener that helps us see beyond what our initial vision can see. It also causes us to reflect deeply and try new approaches in order to improve both ourselves and whatever it was that we were once rejected for.
Before I continue, it's important to note that if, after some reflection, we realize we are acting appropriately and can honestly vouch for the fact that the fault does not lie with us, it is preferable to leave the situationโsuch as our home, workplace, business partner, or relationshipโrather than try to change ourselves.
The truth is that not everyone has the ability to distinguish between gold and common minerals, so for such a group of people it's normal to not value nor appreciate what they can't decipher. I've been in situations where this has happened, both in business and in relationships, and it wasn't a pleasant experience when I got rejected, but I was on the smiling side of the line when I walked out of both.
GETTING REJECTED AT WORK
I once worked at a factory as both the audit manager and supervisor at the same time, and it so happened that during COVID, our salaries were cut, while others were let of, so I had no choice but to make do with the slash amount, since others lost their jobs during the avert of COVID, but after COVID the organization started recruiting new people, to increase the production, but it so happened that most of the people being employed worked under me and yet they're being paid more than I earn, despite the fact that they have less qualification than I do.
Since Covid is no longer involved, I wrote an official letter to the organization's management asking them to review my salary. However, the letter was returned with an angry response asking me what right I had to ask for a pay raise. I was disappointed that my appeal for a pay raise was being denied, but I continued working because finding another job after Covid is difficult. However, there came a point where I couldn't take it any longer, so I submitted my resignation letter.
My resignation letter infuriated the manager, who then ordered me to leave the factory premises right away. I packed up my belongings and left, but after a month I received a call from the manager's boss asking me to return to work because the people in my position had performed abjectly. I declined his request, and he later offered me a pay raise of up to four times what I had been making.
However, I had already made up my mind, so I still refuse to work there, I once share part of my experience at the factory in this post, but that one talked about how I was less cared about even when I got injured while doing everything within my capacity to make sure the productivity improve.
These experiences helped me realize that not all rejections are bad; in fact, this particular one was an eye-opener that I think will help the manager understand the proverb that states, "You don't know the value of a thing until you lose it." I was excited when I left, and not long after, I was able to find a better job where I was valued and treated with respect.
BEING REJECTED IN A RELATIONSHIP
I probably shouldn't regard these as a relationship experience, but it was obviously heading to that direction until she threw the bomb, am sure you'll be wondering what the bomb is and why I took that as a clear blueprint for rejection, well if you care to know the details, they're thoroughly narrated below:
There was a lady I grew close to during my first year of university, We actually did almost everything togetherโI visited her, and she reciprocated, but we never discussed moving our friendship forward to the next level, Nevertheless, the green light was very clear for the blind to see, and if the feelings had sound, I'm confident the deaf would hear it clearly.
However, despite how close we were, she made a statement the day I told her about my feelings and my vision for the two of us. She said that, despite her love for me and my personality, I'm not exactly her type of man because I'm too dark, slim, and below par financially for her likings. The statement hit me so hard that I often say it had the same effect on me as a bomb would, as it literally blasted me from the inside out.
Never have I felt so ashamed of myself, and I didn't even know how I left her present that day, the impact of her remarks were too much for me to stomach, but gradually I got over it and moved on with life, limiting our intimacy but maintaining our friendship. I also improved myself as much as I could and later entered a relationship with another lady in my second year of college.
She was annoyed to see me with another lady, but she didn't try to hide her feelings. Instead, she asked me directly what I saw in the other woman that she doesn't have, and When I reminded her of her statement, she began ranting about how I had misunderstood her words and other things, She also immediately began complimenting my complexion and stature, stating how lovely and shinny my dark complexion is.
I simply smiled and said, "Since you claim to know me so much better than the lady, then you should know I'm a straightforward person, who doesn't joke with people's feelings, so she should know by now that I won't leave the new lady regardless of what she said, I advice that we remain friends," adding that, had she said all of this during the seven months following the time when I told her how I felt, it would have been much simpler, but now there's no turning back.
I gained a lot of knowledge from this situation, even though I felt awful about it. However, I always strive to see the bright side of rejection, which has helped me overcome all of its various effects throughout the years.
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Dangโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธโ ๐๐๐ฅฐ๐ฅฐ๐ฅฐ๐ค๐ค๐ค๐ค๐ค๐ค๐ค๐ค๐ค๐ค..if you don't win the edition lolz, heavens will be angry lol ๐คฃ๐คฃ๐คฃ I just love your write up so bad vik, damn right from the rejection you got at work over an increment in salary to your rejection that was soo crazy my friend..
Lolz that's left for the curators to decide, but that for your wonderful words and compliment, I'm really do appreciate and I'm flattered by them.
It was indeed a roller coaster experience.
Hmmmm rock on my friend and live the life, see you at the top boss
Thanks so much senior man, Odogwu we'll all get there.
Yeah ๐ oh, we go dey thereโค๏ธ
Surely.
No shit na ๐
Well all this being said, I have come to understand that all rejections are not bad and some are just a path to a much more greater heights, if you hadn't resign they wouldn't have known your value, leaving them showed them you worth more than everyone in the factory.
If you had stayed there, there is possiblity your pay amount will be stamped and even after the COVID they will forever pay you that amount..
I love how you didn't even accept their offer after times 4, you are man of principles and ethics.
She never understood your worth when you felt something strong for her but she understood it after you left her to her cross, you met someone else and after some gaps she knew your worth , thank you for maintaining discipline all through your journey now your rejection was somewhat great in this scenarios welldone ๐ ment ๐ฅ๐ฅ
Well some rejections are bad if we are to say the truth, but if we can get over it and look towards the positive side, then hopefully we'll overcame and have something much better then the precious spot where we were rejected.
But like you said, truly if I didn't resign, they'll keep paying me such a bad wages and nothing will be done to change that, but after I left and they tested other people in that position, they realise my impact and wanted me back, but I've learn to never go back to where you were once less valued, because if you do, they might think you're always is to get/convince and will most likely do the same thing again.
So people are always like that and it's in both gender, they tend not to value what they have until they lose it, and in the end the ended up regretting their actions.
We should learn to always treat everyone one well at all time and appreciate their little impact and effort, no matter how little it was.
Thanks so much for stopping by and sharing your thoughts, I really appreciate your feedback back.
You are welcome ๐ my man, never say never, see you at the top soon my blood ๐ฏ๐
That's absolutely true, we'll get there by God's grace.
Amen ๐๐ take care
You too, bro.
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you have written well. I like this.
Thanks so much, I really appreciate.
Hehe...
As it is said, you only know the value of something after you've lost it. And in this case, when she saw proof that you've moved on, she realized what she had lost. It worked in your favor because you ended up finding someone that was better for you. Congrats.
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Not valuing or appreciating what we have is a very bad traits, because we won't realize their importance until we lose them, I learnt the hard way, but it was all worth it in the end.
Looking for positivity in all ramifications always help us to deal with situations and people differently.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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STOPThanks so much for the update, I look forward to meeting up with the next landmark.
Both situations definitely means that you don't value what you have until you lose it. Your ex manager didn't value you, so, also the girl. These rejections are definitely eye opener to you because you worked on yourself and became the best in what you do.
Yea that's absolutely correct, they both felt they can leave and survive me, which is correct, but the least they should both do is value me while I was still around.
I'm glad I pass through those difficulty then, though it was a hard to stomach situation then, but now I'm grateful I experienced them because they've now help me in dealing with other similar incident that wants to play out.
Being Rejected is not a big deal.Almost every person have the experience. But the most important part is how he is taking the situation. You brilliantly handle it.
Poor factory authority. They lost a good supervisor. They must realized then what disastrous work they done.
Thanks for sharing with us โค
Yea that's correct, everyone as pass through one form of rejection or the other at one point in life or the other, but what matters like you said is how we dealt with it.
Do we let it out us down for long or we just live above it and learn from the incidence?
If we can answer that and do the one that's much better, then we'll achieve the best with our lives.
Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts.
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Thank for the compliment senior man, that's the best thing to do with every form of let down and rejection, if you fail to learn from them, then such persons will keep falling into different similar ditch consistently
Thanks.