"I am familiar with the type of people you mentioned." may I know how did you handle the situation? Maybe the exchange of ideas and solutions will help readers who have found themselves in this kind of situation for the first time.
"Sometimes, they'd do everything except straight up ask for what they want, it is pathological." Yes, I noticed that. When they get asked, "What do you want?"/"What is wrong?", they answer "NOTHING!" and expect us to know what's on their minds.
Thank you for the support! I hope you solved your situation peacefully and successfully! Have a splendid day!
It sounds stupid and cliche, but that's often the case for situations like this when you realize you're simply okay without them.
I know the following will sound stupid but I am a movies/TV aficionado it will help me explain how I feel. For years I followed the TV shows of this Iraqi actor named Qassim al-Mallak. His work always had so much potential but he never seemed to get it right. I always thought "This year's show is going to be better" but it never was. It is not the same in terms of difficulty, but eventually, I just realized there was nothing special about him, just my projection and what I thought he is.
With friends and family members that seems the case, we see good and such great potential in them that we stay in denial and treat their actions as temporary, even though that's who they are or the parts they want to be. We even tend to believe it is our fault for bringing that in them and that we should do better. The fact is, we don't have to do anything, we're not the ones making the relationship difficult.
Qassim al-Mallak can go on to make as many shitty shows as he wants, and that person can continue to be as manipulative as they want, that's their derogative. It is like trying to protect someone from drowning but they keep slapping your hand, you either let go or drown yourself.
If they answer "Nothing", it is not your job to investigate further. You can't work harder than them to fix their problem. My situation sadly wasn't resolved peacefully, but ever since I have avoided plenty of situations like it. You're going to meet a lot of people like that because of the sad fact that they're good at it. Just recognize the pattern as you go.
"With friends and family members that seems the case, we see good and such great potential in them that we stay in denial and treat their actions as temporary, even though that's who they are or the parts they want to be. We even tend to believe it is our fault for bringing that in them and that we should do better. The fact is, we don't have to do anything, we're not the ones making the relationship difficult.
Qassim al-Mallak can go on to make as many shitty shows as he wants, and that person can continue to be as manipulative as they want, that's their derogative. It is like trying to protect someone from drowning but they keep slapping your hand, you either let go or drown yourself." this is one of the most brilliant comparisons I've ever read! Your way of thinking is fascinating! Thanks for enriching my morning with genuine wisdom! I'll definitely remember it!
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