Building tolerance is part of the positive virtues of life but it's not everything in life that you need to build tolerance for. It's not everything in life that you need to allow or accept to go on. One of such is blatant disrespect from people around you.
Now I'm not saying react to everything that, I'm actually trying to say the opposite, overlook, ignore or try to avoid certain things but some things cannot and should not be overlooked.
Respect is something we all want in life. Most of the wealthy people have all that they need in life, yet you see them working harder and pushing limits for more, it's not just about making impact, they want to gain more respect for their achievements.
If someone disrespects you, you should immediately see it as crossing the line and I'm not saying care about every single act of disrespect but set the record straight with them without caring whether they're happy with it or not, it's called boundaries and people are not supposed to cross yours.
A boundary of "you don't get to disrespect me".
If you allow a person to disrespect you once, chances of disrespecting you again is almost a hundred percent. It's human nature, when you don't set the boundaries, they will go as far as they want to.
You can respectfully tell people, "please don't disrespect me because I won't tolerate disrespect from you".
I personally believe that respect is supposed to be a mutual thing. It should not only be from worker to bosses or followers to leaders but vice versa. If your boss has no respect for you, there are polite ways of setting boundaries for him or her.
Also never forget that, the first person you should never tolerate disrespect from is yourself. Some people don't realize that they have no respect for themselves.
A proof that you have no respect for yourself is when you can actively do things that brings embarrassment or shame to yourself or your name. If people see you have no respect for yourself, then they realize you have no boundaries of respect and they'll do or say whatever they want to you.
What is the solution?
You need to set boundaries in the most unapologetic way possible. If someone crosses the line with you, point it out immediately and let the lersot know, hey this is the line, don't cross it again. If you fail to do that, well prepare for more line crossing from them.
And if one person disrespects you, it's not just that person you should be concerned about, others are watching your responses, and if they realize you take disrespect, then you'll start seeing everybody else dishing out disrespect to you.
People's negative opinion about you is their problem but their active disrespect to you should not be overlooked. Remember, be unapologetic about your boundaries of respect.
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