we have to live with the consequences of our actions also - just as they have to
I think that is one thing people have lost the ability to do. It is now loaded with excuses as to why our actions did not work, or why we took a particular action. It seems no one really want to accept that there are consequences to their action, when an excuse will do.
I suffer from the second point, as I like to reflect and breakdown what went wrong. I am pretty good accepting responsibility for the outcome in general though - but because I tear it all apart, people often think I am trying to lay blame.