True and well said. But not everyone looks at us as losers. If we see this as a concern enough to write about it, perhaps it is up to us to take the initial step to make sure we individually do not embrace that view. We cannot control the mindsets of others but we can our own.
For me, I don't think I enjoy seeing people suffer, but I do enjoy seeing them get good results. I want my friends to do well - I don't get why anyone would want different for friends. However, I can admit that at times, I also feel that ping of "why not me" - though that was more when I was younger.